Monday, March 26, 2012

It is not the end of the world lah.........

So it was a SPM "D " day last Wednesday, I was with a group of parents (at Jovial school), it was interesting enough hearing those conversation exchanged amongst the parents.

I am not interested to share on those parents trumpeting on how many "A"s their sons or daughters got but one thing got my attention from one particular parent,after all the fanfare of who got how may As and what not, she was kind of feeling "ashamed" with the scene,then she told me that " die lah, I thought my son could at least do so so but the result really shows the otherwise" I didn't ask her about the result,instead I asked her why she said "die lah"

She said,probably her son could not ascend to lower sixth and if he wanted to go to college,she said she just could not afford it so she was worried about her son's future. I then told her, it was not the end of the world lah, there sure to be something that her son is capable of excelling in... she said hoped so.. Ditto.

Note 1) Parent will never stop worrying
Note 2) As parents, are we just interested in our children academically,lest we care so much of their others passion and dreams?
Note 3) Are our children really getting smarter (just look at those who so scored so many As) or is it that our education level is getting lower?

P/S : 天生我才必有用

38 comments:

  1. 天生我才必有用.
    I still remembered one old old man told me, don't be bothered by your children's academic results. The most important is the attitude. As long as he is on the right path, it's alright. Don't worry.

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    1. Yes, attitude will determine more when it comes to success and making it out in the society,,, we have seen and heard those tycoons made it ,,hahahhha

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  2. the kiddo didn't sign up for those tip spm seminar la.. otherwise he sure score all As. ;) its true, not the end of the world.

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    1. Sasha,,, that's why they say, attending those exam seminars will sure get good results one,,,now to think of it, it is true

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  3. anyhow, we parents always hope that our kids do well..

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  4. Eugene, do you still have the lady's contact? Get her to contact PSDC and ask for WTTP program. Its 100% funded program, no need to pay any fees. And the companies will absorb after training end (provided good attitude).

    If she is in Selangor, she can come to my centre.

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    1. Too bad,I won't get to see her after the SPM, but it is kind of possible to bump into her, Penang is small ma,, will let her know of this WTTP program,, may be I will check it out online ,so that I can spread the news around if needs arise..thanks so much for the input ,

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  5. I'd say the education level is getting lower and I simply cannot understand parents obsession with their kids getting dozens of 'A's.

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    1. Neither can I bro, I have always told my boys,to enjoy study,look out for the fun from studying, knowing that knowledge is never ending and if they really want to score As,, i just tell them, to do it for themselves (like something they can tell that children how good the were,,hahahh) and never do it for me,,,,,,,,

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  6. At the end of the day, it is who the individual is - the right attitude, the positive mentality...that will determine how successful he/she will be.

    Doting, overbearing, over-anxious parents may do more harm than good - I think there's a good article in The Star today on "kancheong parents"... Everyone should read.

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    1. You always make a lot of sense with your comments,,,, agree wholeheartedly with what you said...

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  7. It's normal for the parents to be worried, may be they have their own problems...
    But she should always think positive, there must a way out..

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    1. I am wishing her and the boy the best too....

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  8. http://thestar.com.my/metro/story.asp?file=%2F2012%2F3%2F24%2Fcentral%2F10972910&sec=central

    "...The term ‘helicopter parent’ refers to such behaviour, parents who constantly hover around and micro-manage their children’s professional lives.

    They need to realise that the more they protect individuals from making decisions (good or bad), the less willing they will be to possess decision-making capacities in the future, possibly stunting their children’s development as a whole..."

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  9. education is important!

    security is from above!

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    1. Thanks for dropping by and commenting,it has been a while since I last saw your comments,your comments are always brief and "chun" hahaah

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  10. What to do... too many kiasu, kiasi and Kancheong parents out there!

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    1. Like STP said,, helicopter parents ,,,ahahahhaha

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  11. Yes, true. Not end of the world. Those successful people are not academically talented but they are hardworking and smart people! :p

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    1. Can't agree more,however said,knowledge does matter a lot,it would be better like you said, couple with hardwork and good attitude

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  12. Yes, so many As now.
    Anyway, I would think, if not doing well in exam, the person must realise what was going wrong, and try to find a solution that work out for both child and parents. Getting upset after the exam is useless.

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    1. I think the fundamental is parents should always encourage the children and to hear them out,(finding their problems and helping them along the way) therefore I agree with Yan

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  13. Actually many said nowadays students are clever in "Exam". They know the trick where to score, furthermore those info from TV, newspaper, FB actually helps a lot too. Although they pass the exam flying color, but the attitude somehow rather sad.

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    1. So now we know, technology does make the children smarter,,, we also agree that we need more character building than scoring As techniques

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  14. Note 1) Parents are forever parents, regardless the age of their children.
    Note 2) I stress more on attitude and behaviour. What's the point of scoring all A's when my children have no manners with less-likeable attitude? Gee, nobody like spoilt child in the working world.
    Note 3) I'm pondering too.....

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    1. Thanks for sharing Yvonne, i agree with you and note 3,I am wondering too,hahahha

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  15. Dont compare during our time.. ours are certainly tougher and higher standard! :)

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  16. Today education, it is all about A's and college/universities..

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    1. You have brought them up well sis,, kudos to you

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  17. I think the quality of today education is different... So many boast about getting straight As but just look at their EQ, all used to being spoon fed and no character building. My friends running a recruitment agency is so disillusioned about interviewing so many graduates who expect high pay, no work or easy work, big company, allowances, and yet they themselves cannot speak a sentence in english without grammatical error. What is so academic then?

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    1. I remember there was once a reality show, I think is "who wants to be a millionaire" Malaysia,,, the host asked the contestant who happened to be an undergrate from local U, the question was,, "what is a Neurologist" and she didn't even know the answer.........ditto

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  18. The most important thing to teach kids I think is there is no short cut and there is no free lunch. eveything has to be earned.

    ..Or teach them to be Taib or Najib's cronies and invest in cow condos.

    Eugene, regarding FB ..I don't use Facebook lah.

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  19. Sorry KG,,,, my boys say they rather live poorly than unrighteously therefore cow condos, Taib and Najib is out of their plans hahahahahhaah

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  20. just yesterday there was this news report where a father made his daughter beg as her result was not good enough. It's the parental and peer pressure that burdens the child so much. If only parents will understand this.

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  21. At the end of it, it is how we teach our children about life itself

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