My friend asked me to in a way set up a poll,soliciting opinions from my readers,when we argued over one torny issue in regards with sex and in relation with second wife or third..........he asked me "what if one day your wife cannot satisfy you sexually,what would you do?"
I said I believe in the wedding vow,"through sickness and to death do us part" he then said i was talking "cock" that I did not mean what I said and then he countinued that my wife should allow me to legitimately to have another wife for that "particular reason" for he said that when the Maker made woman,she was to tend to the man's need.
Then jokingly I said to him,if that did happen,I rather resort to masturbation then to ask her to allow me to have another wife,again he said I was talking "cock". He gave an example,he said back in the old,traditional Chinese thinking,if the wife cannot "produce" a son,then she is obligated to let her husband to have another wife,he said that's the same with sex too.
I then told him,marriage is not about sex alone,he argued but sex was about anything a man wanted in a marriage to have sex ligitimately and that's the Maker's idea,he reiterated.
I am not putting up a poll here,don't like to do it for I believe everyone is entitled to one's opinion but really I am just thinking why is his Maker making a woman a "slave" to a man's insatiable needs?
P/S : Seriously,through sickness and through health,till death do us part
Eugene, if you were a strong alpha male in the wild animal kingdom, many female will want to share your gene pool and spead your DNA all over the jungle.
ReplyDeleteFor example;
A study shows one in 200 men today is a relative of Genghis Khan-Super Stud.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2003/mar/02/science.research
Some people have the mentality of our canine friends....and behave like them too. I really wonder about their home background, their upbringing....
ReplyDeleteWell... lets wait and see. When you reach that certain age and search out your friend again.. then he wont say u are "b@#$shit@@@ng.. hahaha...
ReplyDeleteAmen, bro!
ReplyDeletei despise that kind of people..
ReplyDeleteOkay first of all, no matter what Maker is he believe in, its really a perverse way of thinking. When he keep saying that its the Maker's will or whatever, he is just simply trying to use a higher power's name to justified his own need.
ReplyDeleteIf women are created to just satisfied men's need sexually and just to produce an inheritance for men, believe me... a totally smart maker will not even have to create a women for that purpose.
Why create such complicated being just for sex? There's the cow, dog, machine, doll which is far more simpler to handle than another human being. If u want sex, you get it anytime for free and you dont even have to get married.
Marriage is far more than just sex. It shouldn't be your initial purpose at all from the beginning. Sex won't get you far in a relationship.
Okay okay... I feel like I'm spamming here... I just disagree with your friend. That's all.
"He said back in the old, traditional Chinese thinking.." then he should still be thinking the world is flat.
ReplyDeleteThat's just your friend's lame excuse to get to 'taste' another woman. No doubt sex is important in a marriage but there's other to consider too - e.g mental and physical support for each other.
ReplyDeleteWomen are not made to serve men, we are created equally by our Maker.
simonsays : All are talking COCK. Why debate? He's wrong & u r right... or U r wrong & he's right. there's no end. i like u but not tis kind. Thx E.
ReplyDeleteThe world ain't ideal. If the woman cannot satisfy her husband sexually. There must be a reason behind. Does the man care to learn the cause before he resorts to other channels? I agree with Yvonne, mental and physical support is crucial in a marriage.
ReplyDeleteI've known an uncle who's 1st wife can't gave birth. So he got himself a 2nd wife but with a condition set by the 1st wife. The first child born by the 2nd wife will have to give to the 1st wife as a legitimate child. They agreed and live 'happily' under one roof until today. There are all kinds of people in this world.
ReplyDelete"I am just thinking why is his Maker making a woman a "slave" to a man's insatiable needs?"
ReplyDeleteIt's not the Maker, it's some men thinking with their second head instead of the head on top..
Surely we are not created for sex but as partners for life... to take away the loneliness from the man, Adam.. :)
ReplyDeleteAgreed with sis Claire :) there's also a passage in acts that mentioned you can choose not to married.
ReplyDeleteSad.. Guess I was right the other time in the comment in an earlier post, some men do think with where their pen is!
ReplyDeleteIf the table is turned around, would he let his wife take another man if she finds him under-performing? Frankly, some women don't even reach orgasm with their spouse and are too shy or afraid to voice it lest their partner's ego be bruised. Oh well..
Strange! Thought I have posted ma comment must have slipped somewhere. He said back in the old, traditional Chinese thinking..that means he must also be thinking the world is still flat?
ReplyDeleteif all one can think is to sastify their self, that is not love. That is LUST. We marry for love and it is for keeps, in good health , in sickness, riches and in poverty.
ReplyDeletewhen one marrried, they are jointed together as one. so the question your friend should be asking , does he loved himself? then he should be able to love his wife no matter what happen, since they are now one right?
If a husband cannot satisfy a wife, den is he obligated to let her get someone else... or rather, a second husband to satisfy her in bed? I tink not, and it works same ways with men. Marriage is not all about sex. There's more ways to make love than just have sex.
ReplyDeleteWomen do not get married to SERVE men. Indeed, good wives DESERVE good, caring & loyal life partner.
ReplyDeleteTrue, marriage isnt about sex only... just depends on how individual thinks..
ReplyDelete*Patting your shoulder in agreement...
ReplyDeleteYeah, it's kinda of shallow to think Sex is everything in a marriage life! It might be something but trusts and understanding are the major factors of successful marriage!
*piak your friend!