Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Paulo Coelho, masturbates ?

Paulo Coelho is my all time favorite author, I have a full collection of his masterpieces,except the most recent one "The Winner Stays Alone" cos I finished reading it for free at the Borders after spending about 1 cup of Americano and a piece of cake.

One Sunday morning, Marvell came to ask me," Papa,what is the meaning of masturbates" I thought how come he did not understand the word "master bed"then i asked him to spell it out, slowly, letter by letter, he said,"m,a,s,t,u,r,b,a.t,e". It was jaw dropping, spine chilling and head spinning.

Trying to dodge his question, I said,"Darling papa is sweeping the floor now, I will tell you later ya." he nodded, I thought it was done with already.

When it came to the evening and just when I thought I was saved from being asked that question again,he came charging at me,"papa, this morning you promised me to tell me what masturbate is? so can tell me now?"

I then, sensing his insistence, Marvell would surely not letting me off the hook, so I said," Darling, where did you learn this word from" he then said," from Veronika decides to die "
You see,just the other day, while I was reading "Veronika decides to die" Marvell gladly asked me if he could read that book as well, you know, I thought I'd sure be a real proud dad if my 10 year old son could digest such a "heavy' stuff,therefore I conceded and now I have this "Duty" to answer him,or else I'd be guilty of not explaining to him.

So I said," Son, I can only tell you this at your age now,masturbate is having sex without a partner" Looking blank at me and me too thinking blank myself, I then said," masturbate is a medical term very hard to explain lah"

Seriously this time, I knew I flopped badly as far as me explaining sex to my son is concerned........and I am still thinking the best possible to answer him again the next time.

How would you answer your 10 year old the meaning of "masturbate"?

Thank God Marvell finally conceded that this book was "heavy " to him and now he is reading his mom's favorite author Cecelia Ahern of "If you could see me now" and I hope Marvell could ask my lovely wife some funny questions too from that book and I would love to know how she gonna explain to him,, kekekekkekekeke.

P/S : Paulo or Paulo, I wish Veronika is already dead..........

38 comments:

  1. "Darling papa is sweeping the floor now, I will tell you later ya."

    ROTFL. You thought you could get away with that!

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  2. Just tell him...and guide and advise him. Better than he discovering it himself and indulging in it without you knowing...and feeling guilty about it as you evade his question so that would mean it is something seriously wrong. Time has changed...

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  3. Eugene,
    I am surprise you dodge his question. I thought you have spoke to him about the birds and bees before? should be no problem for you to handle Bro.

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  4. hey, i explained that to mine before.. easy la.. just go straight forward ... dont hide..no need to beat around with words.. ahem .. ahem..

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  5. I have no problem at all with Jovial but my lil Marvell is only 10,i will tell him about it but as not to confuse him,, told him about sex, man and woman, papa and mama but this masturbation,frankly a bit hard lol,,,

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  6. That explains why I have a girl and a boy - a schnoodle and an australian silky terrier :P skipped all the awkward moments :D

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  7. spine chilling moment indeed ><
    i think im not ready to answer that if i had kids, hope you found a way and teach me XD

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  8. just tell them it is when sexual urges are satisfied with hands, items but not a partner. o.O google and show him? rotfl :p

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  9. Hahaha, next time remember about your books' age rating before hand over to your Marvell.

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  10. when you finally know how to answer this question, remember to share with us ya. LOL

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  11. It was really a very challenging question. Normally, questions that I couldn't answer, I will say, "Next time, you will learn it from your lesson in school, your teacher will explain it to you. " Hehehe, but I doubt teachers can explain "masturbate" well too. Anyway, masturbate is a sex act that you can have the excitement by yourself.

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  12. haiyoh. explain metaphorically as hitting the aeroplane.
    son, you see the plane? try hitting it.
    thar fei kei! or hit the hand gun, phak chew cheng.
    maybe he knows the meaning already. just to see your reaction..

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  13. Not easy being a father eh. Bananaz never asked any of the birds and bees from parents except for once when I asked ma Mama how I came to this world other than this learn from classmates and older friends.

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  14. It's so funny you thought he's asking about "master bed". Ha Ha! It's truly hilarious! Time to buy a book. I highly recommend "Facts of Life" by Usborne.

    I remember once I asked my daughter whether was she aware that female has 3 "HOLES" down there and she looked Sooo PUZZLED. She thought it is an EMERGENCY EXIT if the stool got stuck! LOL

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  15. If my son came up to me and ask me that question, I would have just told him to Google it la ... hahaha!

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  16. Hahaha! I can just imagine you squirming and red-faced trying to come up with a plausible answer for a 10 year old. Oh thats right, leave your wife to do the dirty job. hahahah.

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  17. I have read Winners Stands Alone. Love that book.

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  18. LOL! You got me reeling with laughter, this post. So, you didn't answer him correctly this time, did you? The hard part has yet to come. Wait till he asks about C and F or M&S. *still laughing*

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  19. Masturbates. An action of sexually pleasuring oneself... lol....

    Omigosh kids! How do we really give them sex education... I feel so awkward trying to explain a few term to them, haha

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  20. *sigh* Oi... stop feeding the boy with too heavy books la. No chic-lit, no adult fic. Give him fantasy, give him adventure kinda books... kasi him more kids books to read... auntie Cleff here alot kids book.... those adventure and Enid Blyton-like. Mau kah? Next time auntie Cleff go Penang, Auntie sumbat some to Marvel.

    And as for masturbate... just tell him to ask his science teacher. >.<

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  21. tsk tsk tsk... I was hoping u give a good answer so that i can tell the same thing to my son when he grows up.. lol!

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  22. The fact that you did not avoid was cool! Bacana, masturbacao! A seu filho louco e interessante! Muito bravado senhor!

    You did real good, and your kid wanting to read Paulo is a major plus! He may end up a more enlightenend child. Better watch out!

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  23. I'm sorry, but it is funny.

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  24. By the way, I also type up a blog at this URL:

    http://dwight-middleton.blogspot.com/

    This may end up being the future of psychology one day soon?!

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  25. Incredible!!! At this stage, in this century, people still thinking that talking about sex with their childs is still a taboo, and even worse, can't figure out how talk about it!!... Then they are regretting when their kids learn it wrong from someone else, and even worse, being parents in a such young age!!!... Just be straight!! I bet he will understand as mine did, talk about how things happen and which are the consecuences and benefits, easy!!

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  26. I just posted this page on Twitter, you may eventually get a lot of suggestions.
    Warm regards
    Paulo Coelho

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  27. Just posted your page on my Twitter, eventually you will get a lot of suggestions.
    Warm regards
    Paulo Coelho

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  28. Obrigado Senhor Paulo! Và com deus! Em caso do mim, Và com Buddha! Memso coisa! ha ha ha! Jà bom!

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  29. I think you did the right thing...said just about what was required w/o getting into embarissing detais...cheers...let tthe child grow up and explore

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  30. And marvel didn't choose to Google that word??~_~

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  31. For goodness sake! I really can't believe how BLIND and UNPREPARED some parents are when it comes to their childrens (and obviously their own!) sexuality.
    YOUNG children (like young and grown grown-ups) touch themselves, because it feels good... Simple as that. Your 10 yr old son will for SURE have done it and by you trying to dodge the question you've just managed to make him feel uncomfortable with/about himself... :/
    "...having sex without a partner." Talk about talking over you childs head...! Confused is a huge understatement of what you've achieved.

    Pleeeeaaase, sit you boy down and be HONEST with him, that his question threw you and that's why you were being strange and that you will now explain what masturbation is and answer whatever other questions he may have. Please. Give your child the gift of not being confused about his own body and feelings. :)

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  32. E said it well.
    Enjoy it!

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  33. My father-in-law, a gynecologist and my mother-in-law a pediatrician
    both treat sex subjects like an opened book. After my wife had my first child, her vagina was torn up a little. My in laws examined her after she returned from the hospital. After their examination my father-in-law told me matter of factly about cutting down on "normal" sex act until he said it is OK. After about a month, he told me , yes you can go for it but be gentle. I did not asked him what "un-noraml" sex acts were allowed by them.

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  34. from nxt time just make sure wat ur son reads,,, atleast it will not be head spinning wen ur son pops such questions..

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  35. Hi Eugene, I got to read your blog through Paulo's page. I suppose you could tell your son that masturbate is something one does when physically adult and one does it for different reasons that he ll understand better as he grows up as his body is not physically developped now to experience it. Tell him it is no crime, it is something common people do for pleasure, with or without a partner.
    I suppose it is enough of an respectable answer for now.

    Hope it helped. Best of luck for the future questions!! :-)

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  36. So sweet, I'm thinking of you! You remind me of the beauty of a child's innocence and the joys of exploring and discovery.
    I discovered that children are often doing, long before they have the language of words lol!

    Love and best wishes

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  37. I would have a BIG problem if one day the same question hits me...alamak...

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  38. This really trickled me! My Malay colleague told his son that it means 'Shiok Sendiri'..... The son is happily married today and no longer shiok sendiri. LMAO!

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