Monday, May 16, 2011

To trust or not to trust................

I was astonished to get a call from my younger sister and asking me what sect of a Christian I was, suddenly I felt like my prayer was answered that she would want to follow me to the Church, but....................the story continues.

She told me that her new Indonesian maid had requested that she would want to attend Chruch service at least once a month,my sister then asked me about some details of my church English service.

I then told her, it would be nicer if her maid could attend the Indonesian service but my sister was worried that if her maid were to attend the Indonesian service,where she would have the chance of mixing with her compatriots and my sister was apprehensive that she would then had the higher chances of getting "bad influence" from her maid's fellow countrymen and countrywomen...

Sometimes,I wonder why do we always feel incredulous as far as maid issues are concerned,why can't we just trust them as we sometimes would trust a friend?

Or may be I am too naive to believe that "if we treat others good,we will be treated likewise in return"

P/S : Can I trust you,maid?

22 comments:

  1. This is not just a one way thing. I mean we can choose to trust but how can we be sure that the maid won't take advantage of our trust.

    Trust must be earn. They are stranger to us at the beginning. If we build a good relationship with them from the start, start to know more then only trust can come into the picture.

    I do understand the fear that she have and I do understand your point of view, but when its come to another human, things are not always as easy as it suppose to be.

    If it was me, I will choose not to hire maid. haha IF its me.

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  2. Agree with Daniel above, I won't hire a maid, unless very very necessary.... save all the troubles (just my personal opinion)

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  3. i believe in..trust n be trusted.

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  4. its good for the maid wanna go to church...now we know that her maid is a good christian..pity her man..

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  5. Its a good thing the main wants to go church really

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  6. it wud be great if your sis can attend the church service with her maid.. like that then she gets to listen to the good news and also gets to monitor the maid kan? :)

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  7. Bro, I agreed. If we wanted to hire them, then we should trust them...Actually not all maids give trouble...Unless we care for them...We are all humans....

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  8. Hrm..It was good that the maid wants to go to attend church services. For me, it's nothing wrong for her to mingle with her countrymen. Everyone needs their own social circle to let down their hair, at least once a week. When my family's indonesian maid still staying with us, we already made it clear to her that she can do almost what she wants except for few set of rules and no problems so far.

    I hope your sister will give her a chance. The maid deserves the right to mingle around with her friends too, and for her to pray in the language she's familiar of so she wont get home sick...it's hard to be so far away from home, you know.

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  9. Sorry I share the same concerns as your sister because this is a real problem. If they are serious with their faith, it should be ok for them to worship anywhere most important read bible and pray and behave like Christian. Some of these maids use religion as excuse to go church and socialize, they come here to Malaysia with a lot of 'advice' already. Also, I am not generalizing but I knew a maid who had more than 4religions current one is Christianity, and my grandpa's previous maid who became a Christian here in Msia, deserted him when they allowed her to go home for holiday. She never returned.

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  10. Yup...many do not trust their maids, If she's Christian and wants to go to church, she should be fine...and if we're good to her, it would not matter if she compares notes with others...and finds how much luckier she is.

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  11. I don't think tht's a bad thing, she was not request to go for a gathering but prayers instead! I reckon your sis should be supportive, my 2 cents!

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  12. Tricky, that question. But like you said, first and foremost, always treat others the way we want to be treated. Who knows, someday, it will get back at us somehow, for good or bad. But i dont think it's wrong to let the maid go to church. after all, people with faith and who believe in God seldom brings bad influence.

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  13. aiyoo church only, just let them go and trust them :)

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  14. Maybe it'd be good to ask the maid what she wants.

    You know, Eugene, whether one has a maid in one's life or not is in the stars. A good soothsayer who is able to tell a person's past and future lives would be able to tell whether a person has maids in this lifetime. Incredible but true.

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  15. trust have to be earn.I tend to agree with Daniel and Irene on this issue.

    Some maids, when the employer trust them and they tend to create a lot of problem.

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  16. I rather not hire any maid, because I don't trust them, sorry to say that.

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  17. The problem is that unlike a normal employee or a friend, a maid enters our life and somehow "invade" our personal space too. That's why trust is hard to give and earned for them.

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  18. Tell the maid.. do not break ur promise. otherwise no more church for u to go. Must earn the employers' trust.

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  19. Hi Eugene, interesting post.
    I have always believed in giving my trust in people.
    Its up to the individual to keep or break it.
    Glad to read the maid wants to go to church.

    I'm sure she'll be fine and no worries to your sis.
    You keep well, have a great week.
    Best regards....
    Lee.
    Ps, really nice of you to drop by my pondok.
    Thank you.

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  20. Eugene,
    there are risk when we trust someone,but that is the risk we have to take. Some will betray our trust, but not everyone. so we will never know, it is a risk we have to take.

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  21. it's actually all the experience from other people that have set such a perception.. but well, i guess sometimes we just have to be a little relax, because too much control would most probably bring the negative effects.. so i'd say, let her go and speculate for a period..

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  22. Thank guys for the comments, i read throught all the comments and i am sure,, basically we must still be smart in handling issue such like this but fundamentally we must learn to treat another person ,,,,,,,like how we want to be treated,if you were a maid.kan?

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