I am a father who loves to be open to my two wonderful sons, they know it well,that's why they do not have any qualms what so ever asking me any questions at all.
I don't like analogize questions posed by my boys for example sex akin to honey and the bee stuff, so far i had managed well, until Jovial my lovely 14 years old boy popped this question to my lovely wife who in returned tossed that question to me and i was literally caught off guard..................
He asked that in Mandarin to my lovely wife in the presence of my lil one Marvell and me," 妈咪，什么是口交, Mommy what is Oral Sex ?" My lovely wife gave me a nudge on my arm and urged me to answer him.
Gingerly i said,"Jo, i can't explain that to you in the presence of your brother for Marvell is too small to hear this" to my horror Marvell took a swipe at me by saying," Don't worry papa, i am all right to listen, is it something to do with sex?"
Now that i was pushed to the corner of the ring, either i put up a white flag, telling him i did know nut about it and if i did that then it would contradict my caution to Jovial about not saying it in front of Marvell,Jovial would know that i knew but too chicken shit to tell him.
If i were to tell him about it, what would be the best way to divulge, i was in a quandary there and then, looking at Jovial's face, i knew i had to answer him thus i started by asking how did it come across that word, oral sex.
He said his friends told him about it, i probed further whether his friends did tell him what oral sex was, he said yes,suddenly i felt a sense of relief that i could save myself then i asked him what his friends' explanation was,he then said they said it was just kissing with mouth and tongue.
Now i was in another quandary, to agree with his friends' explanation, close file but leaving him with false knowledge or to tell him that next time he better look for me if in doubt for his friends are feeding him rubbish then i can amplify the pomposity of the "How great papa" i would be.
So i came up with a plan of explaining a bit and save a little bit and to only explain the remaining when the right time arose, so i said," Jo, i can only explain this to you now and will explain more when Marvell is not around ok?" he nodded then i said.
"oral sex has got something to do with mouth,and sexual organs but then again this is only one kind of gobbledygook for sex, hard to explain one, so papa will explain when i gather more information ok? Period.
Can you share with me the best way to explain oral sex to my 14 years old boy? i knew he would come back asking for more.
P/S : Painfully explaining a plain truth......