He didn't look pleased at all when i sat down with him for lunch the other day, as a good friend, i asked what was wrong with him then agitatedly he blurted," My seow boh lah. (in English it means, my lunatic wife),she's a real nag and i am not talking to her two days already"
Casually i said to him may be his wifey was concerned about his safety going out drinking,( My friend is liquor supplier) before i could continue,he reiterated, " She should know what i do ma, but insistenly she just nags and nags and this time i am not going to talk to her"
Enough of my friend's personal account of his chagrin towards his wife and his vexation that seeing him not talking to his wife or in short i call this " Silent treatment" or a "cold war" .
Personally i think silent treatment or cold war is a terrible thing to happen in a marriage,(ok you might say it happens almost in every marriage) but then again i wonder have you ever tried to put ourselves in the shoes of the one in the receiving ends of our silent treatment.
Now thinking of it, i feel so guilty of my own launches of " cold wars" against my lovely wife umpteen times over the 14 years of our marriage, the unreasonable side of me, she might have stomached enough of my "cold treatments" i just felt so bad during the course of the "cold war" before the truce.
How could i put someone i love so dearly through this mental anguish, and when she asked meekly and gingerly "Anything wrong with you ka?" flippantly i responded," Nothing" and this nothing is a signal that i don't want to talk and she is like lost.
In retrospect, i must try not to do this again, giving me lovely wife any "silent treament" for i know it is not at all nice on the receiving side, if i could do this i would write down this statement a hundered time," I shall never give her Silent Trement ever again" akin to the one i wrote when i small," i will never cheat again"
Note : It is not nice at all i reckon to be on the receiving side of the "Silent Treament"
P/S : To be a better, think on behalf of others