Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Human's perception ?

I was searching for old friends through FB last week looking for old lost friends or some serendipity if i might stumble upon any.

I did manage to discover some old friends in the kinds of old church friends, old school mates, ex colleagues and what not. Happy as i was, starting to add them one by one, many of them sounded as enthusiastic as i was except one fella.

Sent him an email asked how were things with him and i even asked for his handphone number so that i could call him up just for old time's sake. Came his email reply, i was not at all happy with what he said on the email.

Bluntly, he asked me if it was necessary to get his handphone number, he even said if i wanted to keep in touch with him, emails corresponding as according to him was suffice. Politely, i wrote back saying that all i really wanted to do was to keep in touch with an old friend and it would be nice just to hear him, that's what i wrote.

There came his email reply again, briefly saying he was doing all right but he cautioned me that if he were to give me his handphone number and if i were to contact him via handphone after getting his number with the pretext of selling him insurance or coaxing him into any Multi Level Marketing businesses, he would again discontinue any corresponding with me..

I felt disheartened with his respond then i wrote back, stating once again that sincerely all i wanted to do was to catch up with an old friend for some coffees, that's all, no ulterior motives what so ever.

I won't blame him for his indifference of catching up but to label any or everyone as someone who only wants to keep in touch with old friends with ulterior motives is to me unbecoming of him.

May be he could be sick and tired of those goons who only rekindling friendship as some kind of gimmicks for their own interest but for old time's sake, why can't we give others benefits of doubts.

Till now, nothing forthcoming from him and i just thought indeed there were only some friends who were worthy of keeping.

Note : Have you have got such a cold treatment from friends, implicating your good intentions of rekindling old friendship to taking advantage of them ?

P/S : Insurance or MLM ripping friendship apart ?

20 comments:

  1. Pity you...
    So far, I did not have any unpleasant experience like yours la. But the way your old friend acted really abit sensitive... like you said, may be he's sick of similar requests before.

    Take care there!

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  2. So far, all my friends are friendly and we were exchange phone numbers without prejudice...
    I don't know what to say about 'that kind' of friend. We cannot blame him for his behavior, maybe he experience something bad before and thats why he is acting like that...

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  3. Could be also that he got fed up with some so call friends trying to sell him insurance and etc. After all it's a long time then suddenly you contacted him

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  4. Ya,may be after a long hiatus,then i popped up he thought" what this eugene is up to?" hahaahah

    将心比心。。。。

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  5. He must have had too many bad experiences in the past to have developed this kind of phobia. Please do forgive him Eugene.
    +Ant+

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  6. oh may be true he gone thru some bad experience before.. and I slightly agreed on your last phrase.. this 2 activities (insurance/mlm) does make friends run away from you sometimes.. it's depends on how this people approach us.. frankly speaking.. I will feel disturb with all this MLM thingy too.. coz some of them love bugging people.. not only frens.. even relatives.. -_-

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  7. I got a lot of agents friends bugging me too :(

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  8. Sigh why he need to think so much and complicated. He must be a very precaution man. Well we still can be frank and even bar the number if our old long lost friend treat us as their business contact.

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  9. People like that are best ignored... I think he's too stingy, too money-mined...and is suspicious of everybody. Not all friends are sincere - it takes all kinds to make the world.

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  10. i got one experience i like to share. this primary school classmate of mine.came back from England after many years over there. we got a class reunion,many are happy ,meeting each other again. i didnt know he was "married" in England.i managed to invited him to only 1 session of kolo mee and a cuppa.that's all and after that,its all excuses. i found out he got the wrong perception of me.i'm not selling any stuff,just wanna have a cuppa and chit chat with my best friend(he was my best friend then) and nothing more.then my other classmate told me he got married to Mr John(not his real name)in England. see what i mean now ..

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  11. ya, i do come across friends that prefer to be left alone..

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  12. i think some people just bitter la. think all people have something against them or want to use them. just ignore. if he dun appreciate it, what can you do right?
    cheer up soon ya. take care

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  13. Given the same situation, I would be very suspicious too but I won't be that blunt to tell him the real reason why I prefer just email correspondence. I too, had a long lost friend who suddenly appeared with the intention to borrow money from me, which I think is even worse!! Can't blame your friend for being direct and cautious.

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  14. yes, i do have some friends, even worst than that... just like everybody said, he got bad experiences before so just ignore them la...cheer up k :)

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  15. Don't be affected by the gesture. Eugene. Just like you'd like to renew contact, some people just want to be left alone. That's life.

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  16. Oh gosh...ur friend is so mean...
    If i were you...I may not add this kind of friend into my friend list..

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  17. Wow - I would be mad with what he said really. like what the heck? You make an effort into chatting with him and he replies with such reply. Gosh - so rude hor? feel better - hes not worth your time ar!

    have a great day!!
    jen @ www.charmoflife.ca

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  19. well bro.. it's actually pretty scary when friends (especially long lost) took advantage of the situation of the friendship.. just recently, we had a old schoolmate gathering, and someone took out some 'CD' to pass around and do 'networking sales'..

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  20. Thank you for your time in leaving your comments...

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