She is not my own

My friend said this to me," Eugene, you don't live with your in laws, you don't know what it is like staying under same roof."

I remember i was about to get married to my lovely wife 15 years ago, the same kind of advice was given to me by another friend," please stay out on your own, if you can't afford to buy a house, rent you must, otherwise it will eventually strain your relationship with your mother, your wife with her and so forth."

Now back to my friend's woe, They used to stay happily together,my friend, his wife and his own mother, it was all bliss in a semi D house. After three years, differences in ways of living crept into their lives, mother could not tolerate the ways her daugther in law managed the house chores, friend's wife in return could not see eye to eye the ways her mother in law "educating " her child.

Friend's mother claimed that her daugther in law was trying to distant her grandson from her, and the daughter in law lamented that her "education system" would result in spoiling her child.

Cut the story short, my friend eventually moved out to a condominum, and the relationship never seemed to improve in any ways either.

So he said, " Eugene, see you will never understand how it is like being in my situation"

May be i am lucky so to speak not in my friend's situation but i don't know could it be so hard to co-exist, mother in law, daugther in law and son........ Just like husband and wife, we have all our differences, but we tolerate, we show respect, we communicate, we undertand, we accept the differences............. i don't know really may be like i said i was lucky.

P/S : Could it be better, if you see others like your own..............