Monday, September 13, 2010

Ulterior Motive ?

We lost contact for about 4 years now, not even a single call from me or from her to each other, i didn't even know that she got married already, so one fine Sunday morning when my handphone suddenly rang..........................

" Hey Eugene, guess who is this?" i said no idea so i promted us to talk further in order for me to determine whom i was talking to, eventually i knew.

" So how have you been doing Siew Mei? " she responded blah blah blah and then she finished with an invitation such as this," So Eugene, tonight are you and your wife free?" i asked her why,
She said her husband wanted to invite me and my lovely wife for a dinner, to my curiousity i asked again why.

" No lah nothing formal, just want to discuss a business plan with you and your wife to see you guys are interested?"

I told her kind of bluntly by saying i did not want to spoil my dinner which would be intercepted with barrage of questions such as this, " you want to make more money ka? " you want to have financial freedom ka?" have you planned for your retirement?" " what do you see yourself in 5 or ten years from now?" " what car are you driving me, ever dream of owning a Beemer or a Mercz?" so on and so forth.

Finally, i said to her i would obliged her if the dinner was for catching up with each other or to get to know her husband or so but strickly no business over dinner.

It makes me realized one thing, it is important to keep in touch with friends in order to make them feel comfortable when we want to talk about " Business", isn't it so?

P/S : We've lost that loving feeling

21 comments:

  1. Yaa...I will not bother to entertain this kind of old "friends". They only remember you when they think they can squeeze something out of you. Opportunists!!! Don't worry, Eugene...you have very nice friends like me! Not going to take advantage of you in any way. Hehehehehe!!!!

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  2. sesungguh nya orang akan berbaik abis time nak ajak join bisnes. ive been in ur shoes bro. bertahun nda jumpa suddenly tiba2 ajak keluar, belanja makan then ckp hal bisnes. adoiyai!

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  3. I experienced this before, and it is shameful what extend people would go in the name of friendship, irrespective of how active the friendship is.

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  4. 上个月同样的事件也发生在我身上。虽然我知道他的用意,我还是去了。然后很婉转的拒绝了。也希望他成功。

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  5. i am with you... not just friends, relatives too. and are we suppose to oblige? am normally very blunt and just say NO.

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  6. should always keep in touch so it's easier to promote something if the need comes. Anyway, it's no harm hearing abt it.

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  7. Hmm...well..can't help it bro. :p People sometimes expects you can accept it.

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  8. I'm with you. Happened to me too. I dont like dinner or any meeting with old friends burden with those questions. Insurance, investment, trust or anything..once you accept their invitation for dinner or lunch they will haunt you..

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  9. sure to have ulterior motive if suddenly call after long silence

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  10. I have such experience too with so-called friends who never bother to call when they don't want anything from you, but once when they start calling, they actually want something from you.

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  11. hahaha....i think is common for friends to call for dinner and discuss other topic for their own interest...hehehe...

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  12. A friend once called me up after 2 years of silence saying she needed help. Turned out she was trying to sell me something. Uggh.... I was so disgusted! At least your friend had the decency to say it was about biz opportunity.

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  13. I tend to avoid these kind of people. Hate it when they only remember you when they wanted something from you. Not to mention those who simply gave your details to insurance agents and other what so not get rich schemes.

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  14. He..he..I was like your friend before. Now, I kinda of avoid these ppl.

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  15. Sadly, there are so called friends who do this... it happened to me before, from different ppl, and especially when I just gave birth (in confinement month) or pregnant... they just wanna sell you plans and plans! So I stopped keeping in touch or answering the person's phone calls... minus one friend lar.. no loss

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  16. Yaa...eventually for some fren we relly dun keep in touch that well but suddenly asking you out for dinner? I kena from one Insurance agent- fren. Guess I'm too polite, so i diajak for da 2nd time! So, is better to say NO straight away! Learn from mistake!Lol.

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  17. so did you enjoy the dinner? did she "sell" or just dinner?

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  18. me will terus no mood for dinner if like dat. :/

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  19. Thank you guys for the comment, i did not attend the dinner and she has called since

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  20. 这就是无事不登三宝殿嘛!

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