I have this coffee buddy whilst waiting to pick my eldest son from school at noon, known him since the start of school holiday, i love to chat up people and getting to know a new friend or two during my so called "spare time", therefore it means to say that i have known this friend for like 3 months now, and seriously we are like good friends.
Intially, he sounded incredeously when he asked me how come i had time to pick my son up almost every afternoon, didn't i have work to do, he'd ask. I told him what i did, and in return i asked him the same question, but he always blushed me off when this question was raised to him, untill.......................
Untill one day, when the same question was asked,he finally shared with me what he actually did. He said he was a businessman dealing with air-con contracts, doing well untill he was overwhelmed by huge debts that eventually battered his business, since then he was like doing odd jobs now.
When he lost his laurel of earning a good money, he was in way needing his wife's support to supplement the expenses of the household, he lamented to me that everything was all right, no complain what so ever, along the way his wife was introduced by her friend to dabble in insurance business on a part time basis.
Not long after which his wife found her niche and forte in selling insurance and she dived into it full time and gradually her income grew and grew and that's when my friend's malaise began as he shared with me.
His wife began to turn cold towards my friend, and his wife told him not to worry about finding a job and instead telling to look after the household that included fetching the children, my friend thought it was a good arrangement as he could still juggle house chores with odd jobs.
Things got a little aggravated when his wife began to calling him names such as "scumbag" " useless bum" and unkind words and his wife began to come home late at night telling him that she had to secure business.
I could sense his discomfort when sharing this with me, and immediately i told him it was not as bad as he thought and suddenly he said this to me, " you'll never know how it feels like when your wife earns so much more than you do, eugene" and i was stunned and i reitereated," look Moy, my wife earns more than i do, but we are all right." feeling a little offended my friend then said," well may be you've got a good wife, Eugene"
He got a little incensed when he told me that his wife sometimes would not be home untill midnight, and when he got worried about her,he called and she would always told him that she was still in a business meeting.
Thank god the timing was right, it was 1.15 pm, and jokingly i told him we needed to becoming a house husband,,,, hahahah. Despondently, he walked with me to pick up our youngs.
I really dont know what happened inside within his family,could he have acted as if he has lost hope and behave pessimitically and because suddenly the wife became so industrious and that got her mad, i really dont know.
Is a man a scumbag or useless when he earns less than his spouse, i wonder?
P/S : I thought love could conquer all.......but then again