Yesterday i had my company's small scale end year dinner, so when i asked my Jovial (my eldest,13) if he wanted to join me along with my lovely wife and my lil one Marvell, he said no on the pretext that he had homwork to do and he was afraid that it might be kind of late for him.
I was thinking man this boy was doing all the right thing, wasn't he? Knowing his responsibility and priorities, so i said ok lah, he could absent himself from the dinner.
The dinner ended early (9.40), on the way back called him up asked if he wanted supper, he said no. Soon i arrived home, as i opened the door, i saw my Jovial busy fiddling with the computer and playing the online game, at this point i was infuriated by what i saw, i raised my voice at him and telling him to turn off the PC straight away, disdainly he did what he was told.
Frrom the look of his face, i could tell that he was dissappointed and frustrated as his fun was immediately ended, giving me a kind of funny look, he marched into his bedroom. My anger was boiling further by this act of his.
Usually, for this instance, i would really rush into the room, raised my voice and give him a good lecture, but i halted for a while, gain my composure then i walked into the room, woo him up and telling him how i felt about the whole situation with the nicest tone of voice and how i felt cheated by the pretext that he used for the playing of the online game.
Towards the end of the chat, i gave him a hug and kissed him on the forehead and telling him" I Love You and good night" and i felt better too.
Boy, he is sure to be growing up and boy i am sure needing to change the way i handle him.
P/S : Yesterday was not the same as today.......................