I stumbled upon few blogs that talked about marriage,mostly the ones on the rock and i would like to share my thoughts on this as a married man, so here goes.
Fundamentally, i think we should all recognize that LOVE and Marriage are two different entities, two seperate departments that requires different attentions all together. So if one is not ready for responsibility,it would do a lot of good just to stay only in love.
We can do all those crazy things, echoing those LOVE songs that so profoundly describe how one should be when we are deeply in love and i truly agree to that,in fact we should be crazy when we are in love, " You to me are everything, the sweetest song that i can see oh baby," but if one were to elevate LOVE to Marriage, then it is different ball game all together.
Marriage comes with repsonsibilities, the responsibilites from both parties to make the Marriage works, to make it a success. I quote you an example, a true story of my dear friend.
She called off the marriage after 11 years in it, she loved her ex but she had one problem though, she had never been satisfied sexually,for her husband suffered pre-ejaculation sickness, she had tried to salvage the marriage by talking to the husband and asking him to seek medical advice. His ego had refrained him from seeking medical remedy,and eventually she filed for divorce.
He was supposed to be responsible for her wife's well being but he chose to shut an eye on her needs, and let his ego do the damage and continue living with it, so what can we say.
In Marriage, both must do one's part to rekindle the fire and stoke the flame, and i always hate this when i hear this," what's that to do, we have been married for so long already,no sparkle left."
In Marriage, both must do the best to be wanted by the other party, be sexy, be hot, be sensual be attentive and be caring. I always share with my friends this, my Marriage is just like my hobby, you see i love running, but if i were to run the same routes day in and day out, probably i'd fall out of this sport, therefore sometimes i have to take the trouble driving 10KMs away to change my running routes, there goes the same with marriage and sex too.
And i always believe that my wife is not a perfect wife but then again i am not a perfect husband either, one thing that we always manage to do, both of us are crazy therefore i am still crazily in love with her and vice versa.
Note : You dont have to go to the Carribean to make your marriage sexy, just two bottles of Heineken in a simple Kopitiam will also do the tricks
P/S : I might not be her prince charming, but i will always do my best to get her charmed