Monday, November 09, 2009

When a man cries.............

Frankly speaking, have not been feeling upbeat for the past few days, kind of stressed out, trying hard to keep my composure, did lose cool a few times over the weekend, it all started with THIS, and because of THIS suddenly THIS seemed to have some things to do with myself.

Last friday, had a coffee break with an old friend, who was in his early 50s, as we were chatting away, suddenly he felt like having some beers, so i conceded, beers and friday what a pleasant combination.

As we were having some good times, suddenly my friend was kind of sad when i asked him about his current status, his eyes suddenly turned red and i could see drop by drop of tears streaming down his cheek, asked him why...........

His business has taken a beating since early this year, and he has been living with the help of credit cards financing and it had since balloning, he was feeling sad because as he told me, at his age, he just didnt know what he could do if his business really gets busted, he could not go back to the work force anymore,................and the whole family depended on him.

You may ask, what has my friend's predicament got to do with me? Nothing really, but the cruel reality of a man in mid 40s into 50s, losing it sounds too scary for me, as recently my business has in a way been not so rosy as well and others.............

When i saw my friend crying in front of me, i knew and i could feel how frustrating and how hopeless it might be for him, he was a good family man, no vices what so ever but it was just that the economy was not doing him any favour and i sheded some tears with him too.

When a man (in his 50s) cries, it must be really hard, i reckon.

P/S : I tried to look around me, i saw worse and i'd survive

27 comments:

  1. It must be really tough to shoulder so much responsibility and trying to hold it all together against all odds. I hope that things start looking better for your friend.

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  2. Gee... I feel sorry for your friend. It must be very extremely difficult for him to handle this.

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  3. i feel sorry too...
    at times like this, we can always try to return to the very basics of life.

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  4. It must be really hard on him. The economy have really affected a lot of people.

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  5. I felt sorry for your friend too. It must be hard for him to handle the stress as the family depends on him. May God bless him.

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  6. i feel sad to hear that...

    What can we do to prevent this?

    Keep and save more money for retirement?

    :(

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  7. That's why we should always cherish and give thanks for whatever little blessings we have.Be grateful...for there are many others worse off than us!

    P.S. Sometimes it's good to cry...

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  8. That's really tough... not just losing a business, even losing a job is not easy when you're 40 - 50. Need to constantly upgrade and improve.

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  9. hope your friend can make it through :)

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  10. I think so too. Men don't usually cry and if they do, then it must be something really heartbreakingly painful.

    But then there may be also those who feel wrecked inside but show no emotion on the outside.

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  11. I feel so sorry for your friend. As someone who just knows about his predicament through a blog, there's nothing I or we can do for him, but you, my friend, has done him a great favour. You lent him your ears and it must have relieved him of some burden by pouring out the pain he had in him. Hope he's doing better. And hope you are feeling better too. Have a wonderful day!

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  12. he can quickly take remedial actions. he could have done them all, but there are things he may need to cut down on, again.
    and the business needs to be looked at again. sometimes when we are in too much sh*t, we cannot see too clearly, too close up. cannot blame him. i understand.

    he needs to be competitive.
    can be done. hard but can be done. first things first. he needs to be clear headed. otherwise nothing gets done. and he will just slide all the way down.

    hope you'll be able to pep him up with positive thoughts. you're a good person at heart too. don't let this pull you down. this is the time for all business people to take a hard look at what they're doing to stay a step ahead of the competition. or at least to stay afloat.
    good luck to all.

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  13. Hope things will get better for your friend soon. Yes...when men shed tears, it must be something real HARD to handle.

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  14. its ok my friend.. you can't be upbeat all the time. the lows make the highs all the more better! :)

    jia you!

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  15. Oh gosh, that is horrible if so.. I really believe and agree with you, but the only hing that your friend can do, is prayer. there no doubt nor hesitations, he must go do God and ask his help..

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  16. Ask him to go de-stress.. get away from work... no need to go far.. just get away somewhere.. and maybe can come back refreshed..
    (oh, i guess it doesnt work, right?)

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  17. eugene, when a man cries, doesnt matter how old he is, is always tough. a man dun cry unless something really big is happening to him.. hope ur friend stays strong.

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  18. In our journey of life there is not always smooth, sometime we just have to face it. Just be strong and optimistic and there'll be nice beautiful rainbow after the heavy rain, right?? Tomorrow will be better!

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  19. Eugene,I hope you stay strong, for what it's worth. I told you that I am hanging on the other day, rite? Well... I am not so sure if I am. I feel like falling apart with all the problems around me. Marital&financial rolling in together. I suppose, barely hanging on is a better description. For now, I think the best I can do is pray that things will get better for me. =( Not much I can do.
    Some friends ask me what happened... but I am not sure how to tell people, because people tend to judge and condemn whenever relationship is concern. Maybe one day...I will write my problems. But not now, because I feel so hurt.

    ps: I'll pray for everyone...if I cannot be happy, I suppose it is a consolation that others are.

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  20. ohhh gosh..he must be really stressed out...men hardly cry....luckily he still have you to pour things out i am sure he felt better

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  21. We should be grateful we are still hanging there without any big problems. Many suffered from the current economy downturns and I guess this downturn will prolong for another year or so. The worse is still not here yet. Really got to be prepare.

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  22. Preserve and everything will be ok. As long as we don't give up we will see the light again! :)

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  23. Anyway I have just cared for you bro. :) have a nice day.

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  24. so sad..hope things well get better for him.

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  25. i know it sounds crazy to say this but from experience, it is a good thing that your friend is willing to open up to you and to let his sadness and frustration out. people who cannot do that resort to even worse actions, for example attempting suicide. you are obviously a great friend and should continue to be so to support him as best as you can. times are hard and it's really not fair that hard working and honest people sometimes suffer.

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  26. very well written.. if a man sheds a tear, he meant a lot..
    sad to learn economy is really bad... we just cannot simply overspent..

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