Last night whilst i was having dinner with my family (my bro in law, my sister and her boy friend, my niece and nephew) we were engaging so intensely about love, fidelity, family and relationship. My newly divorced sister was telling how bad her tie with her ex had turned out to be since the divorce, not on talking term at all and sometime could be hostile to the extent that one party feels like so happy when seeing the other party suffers..............
Question) Why cant two adults amicably admit that, yes we recognize that we cant be husband and wife, let us remain friend at least for the sake of children....... ?
As we continued talking about the divorce, i was harping on the issues of the children's well being resulting from the parents' divorce, i told my sister that i could sense that children were in a way helpless and how the bickering could affect them emotionally, she said she didnt feel that the children had any resentment towards the parents' decision.
Question)Do you think it will not affect the children's emotionally if the parents' had the ugly divorce?
So as we still pursued on the same subject, i told my sister to really try to let go of the hatred and the resentment that she has built up against her ex, to at least enable the children to have some space of peace and to feel that even the the parents had to divorce but they could still feel the peace?
Question)Why do we sometimes make the children as a device to get even by the warring parents, or could it be that the children are the best weapon to be manipulated by the parents.?
Towards the end of the dinner, i told my sister that i loved my wife so much and i would do my best to give my children not material satisfaction but to give them a lot of love and affection but my sister argued that the husband cannot profess that he would love the wife till the end of time and the husband could only testify that his love for his wife only on her last breath, 盖棺定论.
Question) Do you really think that man just cant be faithful till the end of time?
P/S : When i said "I Love You" I meant it