My Gay friend's Dilemma

During the weekend, as my lovely wifey and wonderful children were not here by myside, i took the oppourtunity to set up some meeting ups with old friends, and one of them that i've always wanted to meet up if time permitted was this friend of mine...Sam.

So meeting was set up, 2 o'clock Starbucks over a cuppa of coffee or tea, i have always loved how Sam carries himself, he is almost flawless in his dressing, his discerning tastes and his casual and inviting demeanour.

But this time, he didnt look so happy and i wondered why, so as we chatted along and as usual he asked about my family and works, and in return i would do the same, i have always very concerned about his love life, simply because we are very close and i am one of those few friends that he would confide in.

With his voice sunken, he told me that he'd just broken up with his partner of 5 years and Sam is a gay, he is in his mid 30s, an accountant by profession, he shared with me that he was so lost now, as his partner suddenly told him that he wanted to get married and have a normal life.

He'd tried to salvage his relationship but his partner was not willing to live a double life and with no choice he conceded to his partner's decision.

You see Sam will not be seemed as a gay in public eyes,(not even his family knew about his true identity) except the few of us, now that he was in quandary as he shared with me, if he could just make himself known to his family first than slowly to his circle of friends.

He said he really wanted to make himself known as a gay, but he was so scared of the stigmatic impression from his fellow collegues and his family, worst still he told me that there were a few lady colleagues of his who had shown interest in him.

I told him, if i were him i would slowly but surely come out into the open with my true indentity if i were to be a gay, after all it is my life and if i have good characters, people will respect the way i want to live my life.

Q)What would you do if you were my friend Sam?

Note : Sam is the nick, i cannot use his real name, he is very dear to me, he'd agreed for me to blog about it by using a nick, and i appreciate it.

P/S : If this is my life, i dont need others' approval to live it, do i?