Like it or not, times waits for no man, like it or not, your youth was your yesteryear's pride and like it or not you cant turn 43 to be 34 and, like it or not you have more worries now at 43 than that of 34and finally like it or not my hairline is going south bound instead of north bound.
Over my morning coffee break with my breadfast buddies (all of them above 40,and all male. me being the youngest among all at 43) we were delving in the issues of mid life crisis and the worries of men of our age have. Each of us had to share their mid life crisis and the malaise fears and anything surrounding men above 40, and i will sum it all here for your reading pleasure.
Names withheld to protect each individual's privacy and any similiarity in the comments is mere coincidental....(Note,i have seeked their approval to share their stories)
Buddy A) Fearful of his wife's menopause thus reduces the frequency of their sexual activities and the change of his sexual desires, he wants more but he gets less of it. He said he tried hard to get the wife into the spur of THING, but she seems oblivious and he really feels the sense of unfullfillness sexually and he wanted to get the SHOTS outside but fearful of the guilt that might haunt him. He concluded that men above 40 dont like to have it "DIY", ludicrously he said the hands of men this age cannot connect well with the state of mind, and tend to retard the mind with the wrong signal from the hand( we had good laugh)
Buddy B) Having not enough money in the bank and the business not doing well and his high blood pressure is not doing him any good either, one child in the college, and the other one entering soon, to him "money is too tight to mention" is his real crisis. And for this buddy, having sex at the present state that he is in is like stoking a up fire in the rain, and as he divulged even hydrauric crane cant get IT all up, (again we had a good giggle)
Buddy C)Children not talking to him (having one mistress for about 7 years now) and money is not a problem for him but he is scared than he would be a desserted and destitute old soul if the children still cant forgive him, and he felt responsible for the second wife as well and on top of that, his health is not treating him well either.
Buddy D) Nothing seems to bother him, he is a lone ranger (single man), working for his brother in law, staying with the mother, can afford a session of binging every now and then, going for paid sex when his wallet is compounded with some extra cash, and really nothing bothers him, and he is the only one that has earned the right to calling the rest of us stupid that he reckons.
And he claims that among all, he is only one getting the full monty, not shackled by worries.
And lastly it is my turn) Worry about not having enough saved for children's education, kind of fearful of the same malaise faced by my Buddy A, (What should i do, if that happens to me), worry of not having quality sleep.
I guess life sure has its ups and downs, it is just that men above 40 tend to get more, and i try not to worry too much, trying to feel blessed to what i already have, and try to spread a little bit of love around, and try to blog a little bit more often.
When i hit my fifty, i want to look like this guy, Miu Kiu Wai in the 50'S, i picked my choice because all of us had to name a celebrity that we would want ourselves to be when we hit 50.
P/S; As age catches up on me, i hope to look a little more hunkier. God Bless Me