Friday, May 11, 2012

This I will always remember.................

When I was about 15 years old or so, I remember this..................... Whenever my mom was asked to do "overtime" as a domestic helper in her Japanese boss's home, she would use that extra money that she got and she would always do this for me................She would buy mutton and cook my favorite curry mutton,  this I remember and we were poor then, curry mutton was a luxury.

Just the other day, my second sister called me up telling me that of late mom was not feeling too upbeat, the reason?  You see, she used to chit chat with her peers at her apartment waiting lounge but it seems that the number of peers has dwindled to none cos one by one,,slowly and inevitably her "chat buddies" has" Gone Home" and that in a way makes her I guess sad even she does not show it, my mom is a strong woman.

My father died while I was still in the school and my mother had to shoulder on the responsibility of "keeping the family intact" the money, the expenses, the children and so many worries that I never got to understand until I became a parent myself only did I understand all those worries.

I remember she used to cycle to work but eventually at the age of about 40, she took the courage to learn to ride a motorbike, her reason for doing this... she just wanted to be home early to cook for the family.I remember this, her motorbike was always decorated with a "L" lembu sign cos and she had to pay for her license every three months cos she never found the time to go for the "road exam".

There have been many times, I used to be at logged head with her because I thought that she was being biased in some ways or so but never would I thought that ( even at this point of writing) that when I was young,mom used to be biased too but I was the benefactor of her biasing cos I got to eat the curry mutton,not so for my other siblings.

I have always liked this that some Hokkiens say this," We don't have to light up the tallest jossticks, burn the biggest amount of incense paper and cry an ocean" when our parents leave this world,while when they were still alive, we treated them like a "burden"

I know personally two friends, one blogger friend, the other my neighbor, these two men day in and day out,  will have to go their bed ridden mothers to clean them up and to them this is not a burden, may be it could be a burden but this burden can never outweigh the sacrifices our moms have made for us...

P/S : So in their living years, make them feel proud

 






36 comments:

  1. Well said my friend. Have a good weekend ahead and have a Pauliner and for your wifey on me. Wish her Happy Mothers Day for me too....:)

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  2. mum is always sacrifise and give the best to their children...

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  3. There are 2 things in our life that we shouldn't wait. There are doing charity and being filial. Have a nice weekend, Eugene.

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    1. Nice weekend to you too, and my sincere wishes to you,,Yan for a great mama day

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  4. well said bro . . . it is feeling good to hold my mum hand and manja manja. I do think sometimes my mum is annoy much :X

    at the end I love my mum the most than my dad. :)

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    1. One day when we become parent, we would not the heartaches, the joy, the worries,the pain one parent has gone through

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  6. The ""L" on your mom motorbike was definitely not the typical "lembu" sign. Her "L" stands for "LOVE" !!!!!

    What a great mom you have! So this week you're inviting 2 wonderful women in your life for Mother's Day celebration?

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    1. Man, I like the way you said about the "L" sign, so original and warm,,, thanks you , and to you "happy mom day " too

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  7. Such a sweet post, just in time for Mother's Day (you did that intentionally, I know).

    Don't grieve and cry a river when they are not around. Be filial and the best son/daughter to them while they are still around.

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    1. Yvonne yes i wrote this intentionally but the fact remains that I remember all that my mom has done for me through out these years, particularly when I was younger

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  8. What a lovely post ahead of Mother's Day, Eugene.

    Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers in your life including all mommies here reading this blog.

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    1. Hurray, you said it well,kudos to all fighter mamas ,,,,,,,,,you rock

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  9. This reminds me of my dear mother too... a single mom too... fighter ... Happy Mom's day to your mom .. cheers!

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    1. surprisingly enough, when it comes to the real challenges in life,women are any better than men,,,,,,,,,,

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  10. Beautiful dedication to your mother, Eugene. Yes, they are the best. Treat them well while they are still alive. I must remember that! :)

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    1. Not just you have to remember that, I am always reminded of that, cos one of my greatest regrets of life is not being able to say " I love you " to my papa

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  11. Yes never too late to tell her u love her, never take loved ones for granted!

    Your mum is a great MUM! Happy Mother's Day to her :-)

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    1. But the problem with human is,we always "cry over the spilled milk" sigh..........

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  13. hold her hand , tell her you love her and give her a big hug! Couldnt agree more to that hokkien saying here!

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    1. But the problem is many of us still will cry "over spilled milk|

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  14. This post made me teared and thought about my mom.. Thank you and Happy Mother's Day to your mom and wife.

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    1. Never mind bro,I know you've got a good heart

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  15. Your mom is truly great.. so is mine and everyone else! Happy Mother's Day to them.. may they have many more glorious years ahead!! :)

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    1. Saw that pic of your mom in FB page of yours, so lovely

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  16. Your mother is an amazing and strong lady. Wish her a very Happy Mothers' Day! God bless her!

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  17. Belated Happy Mother's Day greetings to your mum and your missus too...

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  18. Ya always appreciate and treasure our love one. Spend more time with them else we might regret when we have no chance to do it.

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    1. That's why I was so happy to be there celebrating mother day ,hahah

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