I was chilling out with my lovely wife on last Saturday,just two of us,I just love talking to her,now I've learned to listen more rather than talking more, so we were on the subject of strengthening relationship and marriage.
Admittedly,I told her than I was not really that nice nice husband many years ago,in fact I was kind of chauvinistic to certain extent and I apologized to her of what I was then,she agreed me with that I was kind of chauvinistic that I said I was.
Gingerly she said she wanted to tell me one thing and hoping that I would not get mad with her and what she was about to say was a testament that I was indeed a chauvinistic back then, I said girl,please go ahead.
She said," You know many years ago,when I was with my ex company and when I called you to help me when my car could not get started you just blushed me off by telling me to seek help from my colleagues instead and it was a hurtful remark indeed" and this incident was like 12 years ago.
Again I apologized to her and gladly she said it was okay cos she was only trying to share things with me,that's all.
You see,never hurt a woman,no matter how frivolous we think it might be,they can remember for a long time.
P/S : Treat her like a lady
Yes Eugene... we're like elephants. We remember the things most esp when it's related to men and relationship. lol. but, seriously.
ReplyDeleteWomen can be aging and absent mind, but when it comes to those special dates and things she might remember it very well. More over it's the thing that hurt her. 千万不要得罪女人，特别是你的女人。
ReplyDeleteI have long learned that women never forgets... haha
ReplyDeleteHell knows not the fury of a woman scorned...
ReplyDeleteI'm absent minded, but i have great memories on such things too. hahaha...
ReplyDeleteWomen are well known for being a great historian haha. It was not what you said that made her remember but the feelings behind in your words 12 years ago.
ReplyDeletei agree with that. women have very good memory. however what i learnt is that never to repeat to re-tell the story again if the other party as apologise. cos that makes the other party feel guilty only or in some cases threaten .."she always bring up the issue..."
ReplyDeleteNo matter how long we can remembered, we usually be the one who forgive first by all means...although sometimes we bring up the issue again n again. Lol
ReplyDeleteI think things that people remember are either very awesomely memorable or extremely painful things.
ReplyDeleteAn interesting unknown-author quote to share:
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Eugene, this has nothing to do with super memory. We just don't erase those hurtful/humiliating/embarrassing moments from our memory slots. Kiahahaha!
ReplyDeleteSuch a nice way to chill out :) Just talking about then and now.
ReplyDeleteWe sure have great memory! Ask my fiance, he swears by mine :)
ReplyDeleteyeah, maybe that's not a very nice thing to say to her and i think it's nice to hear you saying now that you were probably a chauvinistic, meaning you've improved on that part and i'm sure your wife is really happy to here that.
ReplyDeleteI do have some sharp memory on things and I usually bring it up when my love seems to forget about it.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I just loved being a woman!
oh... hahhaha women memang got super memory esp when it comes to stuff like this. I also wonder why.. hahahah
ReplyDeleteThank you guys
ReplyDeleteYes!! Beware!! They remember things well, especially those bad memories.
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday, dear Eugene. May you have blue skies and all things nice this day and throughout the year. Many happy returns of the day and may all your wishes come true.
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