I met up with a old class mate of mine,after he called me a few times to catching up,I finally decided to meet up with him cos every time i meet up with him, it is almost crap that we talk and I thought to myself,some times talking crap can be therapeutic and stress relief too.
I said,"Hey bro, you are not going to find a girlfriend,make her your wife and spend the rest of the life together ka? bro, we are already 46 years old, and don't be held back by your divorce lah, it has been 6, 7 years now'
Before I interjected further, he promptly open up his notebook,with a few fiddles of his fingers, he showed me a social network site,(I am not going to say which one here), flashed in front of me, there were pictures of some girls, then my friends jokingly said," these are all my beauties lah"
Sensing that I looked perplexed and kind of outdated, he continued," look bro, these are girls that I have befriended and you know what so good about it ?.........some of them are in for a non committal relationship? I asked,"what is non committal relationship?"
He elaborated," It is like, you want some fun, so do I but don't ask me to marry you?" naively I asked," Got such a thing one mei? Then sheepishly he asked me If i really wanted to validate what he said was true........
He then challenged me to register on that social site and see it for myself...................coyly I told him that I would do it (register when I got home)
Now seriously I am not too sure what he told me was true,,,Non committal relationship and all just for fun?........period
P/S : Now how can a relationship become relation-so-cheap?
Sad case. Dont they know that its this kind of relationship that actually leave a huge hole inside of them which they can never filled it in even after all the 'fun'.
ReplyDeleteThey will go back home alone, thinking that was fun, but end up no one is there caring for them, no one to actually be there for them.
Sooner or later... relationship such as that will only back fire and when it does, it will hurt like hell.
You friend was hurt and I assume that he's afraid of the past and just taking an easy way out to filled the emptiness.
So the idea aroused your dormant passion lah? Not only divorcees, a lot of young people doing that out there...in this bed, out that bed...wham, bang...thank you, m'am! But I will not judge lest I myself be judged.
ReplyDeleteSome divorcees end up with one motto.. Once bitten twice shy.. they dont want to get married again..
ReplyDeletei believe its a social dating site? hmm
ReplyDeletecan't believe such thing already catch on in malaysia.
ReplyDeletehow can there be fun if there isn't U?
ReplyDeleteEventually their U keeps changing that it makes the whole thing looks so fragile and unstable.
Usually people like this are those who is either hurt badly before, too afraid to be alone, or just out for the money o.O; are there anymore of reasons? =3
Ahhh... your friend probably lost his faith in any relationship liao, apparently he doesn't want to be tied up again or getting hut again in a serious relationship.
ReplyDeleteno commitment relationship..great for guys but bad for gals.
ReplyDeleteThis phenomenon has become quite a norm among us... sigh.
ReplyDeleteYou friend is not seeking for relationship, he's doing it for entertainment.
i like ur 'relationship become relation so cheap!'
ReplyDeletesad but true that is the norm these days...
Evolution is a continuous process including social evolution. In this day and age, the options are endless when it comes to increasing one's social circle (among other aspects) and with the freedom to love, anything and anyhow goes. These are exciting times for mankind. No? Still, people would need to tread carefully lest they get themselves into deep sh*t. My two cents..
ReplyDeleteInteresting WV: humshins
Btw Eugene, thank you for your insight. Picking up some more today?
I guess there are some people with that kind of "relationship". For me, it's sad though.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's something good...
ReplyDeleteAnyway, think twice before register to anything...
All they want is money i guess?
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who asked me to join him as F*** friends. I was like.. huh? like your reaction .. Got such thing wan meh?? True enough , he has a group of human that comes out bang bing bong, then balik rumah. You want I want, we kau tim each other then settle. I was like woah.... so canggih.. no thanks. hahhaha
ReplyDeleteoh, it's not a surprise for such a thinking given in this world today.. people have different perspective towards how they want their lives to be, how they define relationships.. we just cannot judge them with our own thinking, afterall that is their lives and they live with it.. :)
ReplyDeleteLately lots of con job getting to know friends online. Anything can happen.
ReplyDeleteBelieve it my friend. In this day and age, there's all kinds of strange and weird things out there.
ReplyDeletethank you for dropping by :)
ReplyDeleteWell...I won't say it doesn't exist, but a few practicing it bro.
ReplyDeleteThese kind of stuff do exist of course, but I have never heard of a website dedicated to it... seems fun for guys who are single and rich :P wakakaa.
ReplyDeleteBut other than that, better avoid this stuff.
i think the fear of committing is directly or indirectly related to the fear of losing...
ReplyDeleteSigh maybe your friend is really afraid of long term committments eh?
ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting, like we always say, let us not judge,lest us be judged,,,, it is his life,he owes it to himself to live it the way he wants it,,,,
ReplyDeletethis post is only for sharing,,, not to judge who is wrong or right... indeed there are bad elements out there,,,, wit God,we can see the truth from the lies,,,,
As the saying goes ; Free milk, why buy the cow ? Good deal for all.
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