Saturday, June 04, 2011

A wife, a sex worker, a whore or just plain excuse

Someone says this,"A good wife is a good sex worker to her husband,what's wrong being a whore in bed for your husband ?"

I read about the above statement taken from the newly launched Malaysian chapter of Obedient Wives Club's (OWC) and i felt kind of funny about this statement, I am not discounting the fact that sex is paramount to a successful marriage but to make it the only onus upon a woman to keep the husbands from straying or going to prostitues is once again to me being unfair to a woman.

I know God says wife should be submissive to the husbands but then again God also says the husband must LOVE and HONOR the wife. I love the words to love and to honor and these two should preside over the submissiviness of a wife to the husband.

Just imagine, i suddenly have this sexual crave, call out to my wife " Come on, i want sex now" but on the other hand she says ," I am not feeling too well and am not game for it" can i then tell her," If you don't give it to me, i will get it outside" ?

If a wife should stoop to becoming a whore or a sex worker,(to me a whore or sex worker does not "incorporate love with sex" then where is the respect in the marriage, where is the love and can two bodies be intertwined as ordained by God out of only lust ?

Seriously speaking if a man who wants to stray,no matter how good the wife can be even in the disguises as sex worker or a whore to him, he will find another 10,000 reasons to tell you why he strays, when there is no respect, when there is no love and when lust overpowering love.

P/S : Till death do us part or to no sex or lack of it do us part?

30 comments:

  1. I read the article at the star online today...and you know what, I never knew that there's still some women lives under the coconut shell. they even said that the cause of domestic abuse is because of women who didn't obey to their husbands' wishes. Tsk..tsk....sad to know that there's women who look down upon themselves.

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  2. Now is 21st century.. maybe during our grandmother's time, men are always class above the ladies.. nowadays no such thing liow..

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  3. if fed meat everyday, a change of diet would be much welcomed. like, say having vegetables.. what say you?

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  4. Nothing better to do ....nothing better to say...sigh...

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  5. Much ado about nothing. Certainly a reflection on their mentality - looks like they only have one thing on their minds.

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  6. Yes....a wife should be honoured and loved by her respectful husband..


    Something to think about....very good Eugene!

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  7. A know of a guy who went for a Mongolian so I guess his surgically enhanced and cosmetically reconstructed wife did not satisfy him in bed

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  8. Hi Eugene, good for you. A friend told me about that Dr Rohaya's article in the Star. Interesting.
    To me, love should be adding firewood now and then....
    and to have fun, with respect for each other's feelings.

    And you're right, men or women who want to cheat, nothing, no one can stop them....And there will be those that no matter how beautiful the wife is, or handsome hubby, will still be tempted.
    I guess Hollywood has to a certain amount influenced society.
    Have a nice day.
    Best regards.
    Lee.

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  9. I have a feeling that I'm going to write a long comment on this issue, haha. I try to keep it short and simple.

    First of all that statement is totally utterly nonsense and a disgrace to humankind. Whoever that bugger is, she owe a public apology to the whole world.

    It's coming out from a female homo-sapiens some more?! This is totally ridiculous.

    Argh tak tahan. I'll say the rest in my blog....

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  10. i read this on the newspaper too ... i feel shame for this lady who said this .... O.o O.o ... i sure there will be alot of comments for this after the article came out last Sunday !!

    Agreed more on what u said .. To love and to Honor .!!!

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  11. I agree on the respect part. There should be mutual respect in a relationship. Not just I want, you give me!

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  12. This lady is putting herself to shame for disgracing her own gender. She's directly admitting that she's a whore...

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  13. All of a sudden Bananaz got six pairs of hands, 2 covering the eyes, 2 over the ears and 2 closing the mouth.

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  14. Well, it is important to know that wife ain't a whore...and I totally agree with your post. Love is not equaivalent to sex. While sex can be a beautiful part of marriage, it is not everything in it. And I think if people, guys or girls alike would come to face their own failures without giving much excuses such as this, we will be a better person. Really nice post on this one!!

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  15. Just want to laugh at Bananaz comment LOL

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  16. I was thinking, perhaps for club members to be more well-versed in the tricks of the trade (since the womenfolk are (sex) workers, it would be necessary to have practical lessons where members can watch and learn.. Oops! Am I asking too much?

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  17. Ya man... I dunno to laugh or cry when I read abt this absurb OWC, and that this coming from woman herself, to say that social ills like porno and prostitution is a wife's fault? Come on, she is must highly drugged to say that, or lost her mind, or just intellecturally challenged.

    And I agree with you that if a man wants to stray, no matter how good the wife is, he WILL stray.

    Think about this... if man don't want to eat chicken rice everyday, no matter how you slice and display the chicken rice, decorate it, use different plates, surround with condiments, add soup, etc, it is still chicken rice to him.

    If he craves for duck rice, he will go eat duck rice, eg if he wants to stray, he will. Not the dead chicken on the chicken rice plate's fault.

    Please, someone forgive this OWC and pray they see light.

    Btw, if her husband love her so much, and if she's such a good wife and keep hubby happy, why does he marry 4 wives????? Hahahahaha... joke on herself!!!!

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  18. I just registered with ROC 'Notty Husband Club'....anyone want to join? he he he!

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  19. Women should not be blame for men's lack of conscience and aggression as well as infidelity. It takes two to tango. And what's going on with the bloody club is a reflection of a backward mentality.

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  20. can a husband be a gigolo for the wife?

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  21. i hope all the bright smart and rational women of Malaysia (muslim or nonMuslim) will not join that club. it's degrading.

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  22. you said it right bro... respect is one major ingredient for married life... apart from trust, this ranks way high for married couples. visiting you here today after a very long hiatus... God bless bro!

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  23. Well, from my personal experience
    with some muslim girls while I was studying in US and UK, they really don't need any new lessons. They know all there is and more than anyone dare to admit or want to belive about pleasing themselves and pleasing msn. :)

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  24. Hmm, frankly speaking, yes, if I were to be married already and have a lovely wife, sure I want her to PLEASE (lol) me and vice versa. But the way of pleasing depends on the couple.

    To have someone call that as being a whore is totally unacceptable and I just dunno how they can come up with those stuff. And THEY are not of the make species but they are of the opposite. amazing wakakaaka!

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  25. Frankly... really pissed by these outdated, rotten minded so call religious and husband abiding bunch of women, respect is the core of a strong relationship, not SEX!>_< My 2 cents!

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  26. Thanks guys for spending your time in commenting

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  27. I think it all boils down to respect, love and compassion for each other. Compassion will come when there's Love. Respect will come when there's Love. And Sex will come when there's 3 of these. To me la :-).

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