Monday, December 06, 2010

You will never know what it is like......

Have you ever witnessed such a scene like this? You are in a restaurant, then suddenly you hear a boy shouting non stop demanding this and that, raising his voice a few notches higher if his demands are not met,so what do you think of the boy or even the parent of the boy?

Probably you'll think this boy is not well disciplined or you might take a look at the boy's parents,saying they must be kind of a worst parents. Most of the times, we are wrong about our own presumption as far as this situation is concerned.

Over the weekend, i spent two days with 4 boys at a beach resort in Penang, two boys are of my own, another two being the boys of my lovely wife's friend. One of the boys of my friend happens to have the traits like i mentioned earlier, he is a wonderful boy,it is just that he shouts instead of talks, he will demand an answer untill he gets it no matter what.

May be it is an inborn trait that this wonderful boy slightly different from the rest, harder to control, can easily drive any adult to the wall at any one time and again you will never know what it is like to have a child like that.

I really salute my dear friend for her patience in handling, educating or even disciplining her son,not even once i heard her raising her voice or scolding him and this i reckon is what i call the Mother's Love.

So, next time if you happen to be in a restaurant and you happen to hear a boisterous child, shouting here and there, please don't pass unfriendly remarks, please don't give that child a awkward look and please don't stare at the parents with look that lacks social grace, you will never know what it is like when their child is different than yours.

P/S : No child is different as far as a mother is concerned

17 comments:

  1. Thanks for reminding me bro! I guess I have been pampering my son too much and find it difficult to hold back. Hope Sunday school helps! Luckily, he is the quiet and shy type !!

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  2. Perhaps the boy has hearing problems...and he thinks everybody else cannot hear him. My mother used to talk very loudly until she got a hearing aid. If not, then he needs to be "advised" - like it or not, we need to blend in with everybody else and cannot always have things our own way. Imagine me running around naked...just because I like it that way!

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  3. Yes, I have seen before.. one case while I was shopping for my jeans.. I really want to give credit to both mother and father.. their patience puts me to shame.. they are so calm when their son around (8-10years of age) was screaming on top of his lungs..

    This is super love...

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  4. as for me, I might be scolding my kids should they misbehave.

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  5. Good reminder, I'll bear it in mind.. Have a good day, Eugene!

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  6. Hi Eugine, I have become one of your follower. Children tend to change when they grow older and become more mature, so what they do know will not reflect how they behave in the future..

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  7. Children are fast learner. They know we won't scold or cane them in public. Basically they can do anything and get away with it. But that's not the story when they get back home... It's lesson time.

    All parents have their own parenting style :) and nobody says parenting is an easy job.

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  8. I wish I have that great patience too, but I guess I still hava a lot to learn to be a loving mother like your friend. I just too hot temper.

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  9. Oh Yes, I really agree about this. It was like, don't judge the book by its cover...

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  10. Not a parent, but I respect people who have patience in handling their children.

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  11. thanks for ur words and post ...recently im having some of this prob .. i hope when others look at me or us, they think the same way as u .. not think that we parents had a lousy discipline ... :P

    is true .. is never bn easy, when our kids shout in public and we had to remind cool and calm them ... not easy.

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  12. ppl won't understand until they are parents themselves (with loud kids too!) :P

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  13. Yup, only parents will understand, i think i will not be happy if kids shouting in public.

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  14. i have neighbor who kid is ADHD. so he is hyperactive and hardly can be control. so i think maybe that the case?

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  15. What I can think of is that boy wanted attention which is lacking to his standard..my wild guess.

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  16. I think your wife's friend son is an attention seeker, or inborn in him as just had mentioned. Anyhow, kudos to his parents for being such patience.

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  17. For me, every children is difference. Example, I dont have much problems in public places with my elder son; but it's very much different and a bit difficult at times with my younger son. However, one thing in common is that they need your unconditional love and attention for sure. And yes...please dont judge the parents or the kids if misbehave in public places.

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