An elderly couple manning a Wan Tan Mee stall in one of my favourite coffeeshops, it is a well known fact among us the regulars that the husband of this auntie selling Wan Tan Mee has a very temper.
He doesn't have to choose the right time to flair his temper and lash out unkind words at his wife,especially when the business is good and the orders get topsy turvy, he would shout out in cantonese," Lei moh lo " loosely translated "you are stupid" and the wife will then mumble in protest but never will she retaliate..i have seen this scence far too many times, then one day.........
Same scene took place, i was sitting near their stall and i walked up to the auntie when the husband was walking away after throwing his tantrum and i asked her in Mandarin," auntie, 你可以忍耐你老公的脾气 auntie you can tolerate your husband's bad temper, you are good lo."
She looked at me smilingly," ai yo, 习惯成自然，认命了 so many years i have married to this monster, so used to it already lah.,"
In retrospect, i was thinking to myself, how convenient this statement is," so used to it already lah". I remember vividly there have been many occasions that my wife would make this similiar statement to my friends when asked of her if i had bad temper,my wife would conveniently say," so used to it already lah,"
It got me thinking again, if my wife could conveniently say," so used to it already lah" does that warrant me not to improve on myself or simply overlook her unhappiness with me to certain extent to continue a marriage the way it is,,," So used to it already lah"
I rather have my lovely wife saying this to my friends," He has changed already lah than so used to it already lah"
P/S : Taking things for granted is short changing others.