Tuesday, June 01, 2010

You must really read this..........

My handphone rang, i answered and over the other end of the line, he asked if i was free to talk, surely i said ok for a friend.then something this friend of my said really gave me a shock of my life, suddenly i felt like i was being accused of something that was so damning and culpable of a death sentence....... to be frank i was really shocked to say the least.

Then he began with something like this,," Hey Eugene, do you want to find fault with me ka, if you do just let me know?" i was speechless, didn' t know what was wrong at this juncture, then he continued," or do you want to prove that you are so good in computer, that you could find my wife in FB?" i was even lost then, i cooly interrupted him," Hey friend, what is this and what did i do wrong?"

He kept repeating the same two questions, before he made himself clear to me and he began to fire his salvo at me when he said this." why did you want to add my wife in facebook, you know that i dont like my wife keeps fiddling with his broadband phone with all this facebook stuff, i really dont like this,you know?" i could sense his frustration and his anger and i did not want to enrage him further to prove my ignorance (that he hates FB so much,) or my innocence ( cos i really feel that's nothing wrong in adding a friend's wife in my FB and have many friends' wives in my FB.

I was telling myself to calm down,(if i were to be my oldself, i would have really retaliated to prove my innocence,lest anybody accusing me,but now with God's grace i am a better man now"

I said i was so sorry that i did not know my action of adding his wife into my FB could infuriate him to this extent, profusely i said i was sorry and telling him that he could ask his wife to ignore my request.

I really dont understand this, we know one another, my wife and myself know both of them, we are friends, albeit not close but we are still friends and i really feel sad that this action of mine has caused some disharmony in my friend and his wife. I know i am innocent but then again i cannot undone what is done, can i?

This incident really thought me one thing, it really takes a long time to know a true friend or the true color of a friend.

Note: I hope he can still see me as his friend.............

P/S : To diffuse, sometime saying sorry is neccessary even if it is unneccessary...........

25 comments:

  1. Haihh... misunderstanding oni la.

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  2. cheer up yea. :)

    guess maybe his wife spent most of the time in front of computer facebooking made her hubby hate fb so much.

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  3. oh dear! U added me too and I'm someone's wife too. Gosh.. friends only ler.. why the big hoo hahs? tak per lah eugene, glad to know u r the new u. won't retaliate. proud of you :D

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  4. wei.. he is insecured.. u r more handsome than him? :p

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  5. Men with their insecurity... Too much guy like him existed in my life and to be honest with you, I'm sick and tired of guys like them trying to keep their spouse inside a cage like they own them and as if they are not human anymore and not allowed to make contact with friends that existed in their life before. Loser!

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  6. Maybe he's not comfortable or not too technology consciousness. He could have thought it's an invasion of privacy, with his wife have another channel to talk to u especially on their family issues.

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  7. u got fb? add me! =D

    no worries, I am no one's wife...hehehehehehe....

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  8. waaa so possessive ar hahahahaha

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  9. Your friend's sick in the head - insecurity...suspicious of every other guy. Maybe the wife also "that type" one, making him like that...

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  10. LOL! He need to consult a psychologist to get rid of his paranoid, cheers!

    Have a nice day!

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  11. i kena jugak, my friend ask me do you know this fella, why you add this fella, i told him, i dont really know this fella, i just add her because to the FB friend suggestion, because at first i dont have many friend, so i just add random friend generated by FB, mana tauu somebody's GF or wife pulak, anyway, add as friend is just add as friend, not something bad or planning to do something really bad with the other party right, aihhhhhh, i also pening

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  12. hmm... i think some misunderstanding here la ... the hub .. too kan cheong edi .... then just ignore lor ...

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  13. I guess your friend is very out, he doesn't know much about FB and that's why he hates FB. FB is commonly used to connect to long lost friends. Anyway, let it be, we can't control many things. Cheers. Have a nice day.

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  14. Eugene,..bo tua tai chee lah.anybody may come across this thing any moment of their lives.at times,it's vice versa - the women may warn her best girl friend," hey you there,knows where the line is ...okey?! he's my prized horse(Arabian breed) younno?"
    you have a nice day,brthr

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  15. Maybe his wife got an affair in facebook before?

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  16. sounds like a very insecure man wor... i'm also someone else's wife wor and you're my friend on blogger, how arrr, hahaha =D

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  17. Aiseh... even if you don't add her someone else will still add her la... the root is the wife, not you. He should talk with wife and not cari pasal with you.

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  18. Think your friend is overeacting and very protective. Jst delete her from yr FB.

    U shld hv added him up first.

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  19. agree with what you said at the end.:) One person had to give in and if it makes all of you feel better why not eh? Your blog's full of beautiful lessons!

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  20. Juz a misundrstanding......Cool down!!

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  21. i love ur ending, how very true

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  22. maybe he's going through some stress that it affects his conscience?

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  23. I don't think it's becos of adding u as a friend is the cause of him making the call. It's becos it's so co-incidently, when the wife was fiddling wt the handphone, he saw she's adding you. :P (hehe.. my make up story.. )

    I think he just doesn't like the wife is so into the phone until ignoring him. I hate this too frankly.. just don't know why ppl keep pressing and so concentrate on the phone and ignore the person sitting just in front of him/her.

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  24. Quite common actually. My friend was hesistant about adding her friend's husband for the same reason. The world is full of jealous and suspicious spouses. ;)

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