"His mother left him and his brother when they were 7 and 5 years old respectively for another man, leaving his father with two boys, they never felt nor experienced what mother's love was all about.
Eventually the mother came back wanted to make amend with the children when he was 18 years old, he recalled he met his mother at one coffee shop and he was not excited about it and the mother told him back then that she would come to see her again, he remembered his mother telling him that she was sorry but then again there was also the last time he met her, untill now. 17 years apart."
My friend never wanted to know why his mother left the family but he's always wanted to know how could his mother leave the two boys of whom she carried in her womb for so many months and cared for for so many years before she eluded them no matter what the circumstances were back then, he just wanted to know that.
I asked him would he forgive her if she came back to him now and wanting to make amend once again, to reunite with them (now that their biological is dead) would he long for the lost bonding akin to mother and the son. He said he rather prefer that she would never return for he said he had hated her but he would choose just to forget her. "
And to my friend, Mother's Day is just another day that he wished he could have the answer for a question that has stayed with him for the past over 40 years
You know sometimes i too feel like lecturing my own mother for her bias actions but it's always pained me whenever i done that, i know i rather have a not so perfect mother than no mother at all. And i still can remember what sacrifices she'd made for the family....
P/S : At this point can we forgive and forget ? Happy Belated Mother's Day