Thursday, April 15, 2010

We don't fucking care, do we?

Another tragic story, another child's life lost, another front page news, another coffee shop gossip and yes it shall remain just ANOTHER, god knows when we are going to hear such same old fucking news agian.

A three year girl was rushed to a hospital by her mom's young boyfriend and the girl was pronounced dead upon arrival. Doctor suspected something was amiss, when over 30 bruised marks were evident in the girl's body, police alerted and the boyfriend was arrested to help out in the investigation.

It always breaks my heart whenever i hear or read about the news of such a heinous act inflicted upon defendless and helpless little souls, the little ones are supposed to be loved and protected by us and not otherwise.

So when i read the news of the latest child abuse case resulting in death, i was speechless . This morning i listened to the same news in mandarin again, suddenly a question popped up in my mind, a question so simple, " could this girl have been saved?"..............

"Could she have been saved?" i definately think so. You see, when i listened to the news and as usual in the crime scene, the neigbours were interviewed and their opinions sought. Many of them said that, they had heard the cries from the victim that sometimes lasted about one hour or so in the morning, in the daytime and even in the middle of the night,some neigbours even claimed that the cries have been going one for about one month already day in and day out.

Why didn't any of the neigbours took the initiative to take peek, to find out why was the girl crying day in and day out, i am sure as a parent( i am sure that many of the neigbours are parents too) we could sense the distinction of a normal baby cry to that of cries of a child being abused. If someone would have done something when an unusual cries of an innocent child was heard, a child's life could have been saved.

I can still remember what i did back in my old apartment, there was this little boy( ah how was his name) Ah How was kind of a latchey kid, (divorced parent) staying with his father. Every evening when the father came home, the father would shout, hurl vulgar words and most of the times it would end up with the cries from ah how," please dont hit me,papa, i am sorry sorry sorry, please dont hit me" Everytime the cries of Ah How resonated in my ear, i just felt pain.

Most of my neigbours knew of this but really none did anything at least for the boy, they would just talk, talking about how Ah How's father became so violent, blah blah blah and more blah blah..One evening, the same thing happened, i told myself i must do something about this, right after dinner, i went up bare chested( in order to scare the father with my muscle,hahaha) i knocked on the door, i shouted at the father to stop hitting Ah How, if he refused, i threathened that i would call the police and then the hitting stopped.

The next day, when i met the father, i told him it was me who knocked on the door and i warned him, if he did what he did to Ah How again, i would not hesiste to call the police. Nothing really happened thank God untill i left that apartment, and i really hope that Ah How is doing all right now.

We must really be a BUSY BODY when a child's life is concerned, the children dont deserve this,seriously.

P/S : If you sense something's wrong, then do something that's right

30 comments:

  1. agree with u, if ppl really care and take d right actiaon at d first place, at least can make something different. sigh.. people nowadays just dont care and prefer mind their own business only. :s

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  2. Child abuse ad dumping baby all over the news today. I feel so sick with the news. Give me the baby if they dont want..I love to become a parent even though i'm still single till now..hehee.. considering to adopt a baby.. :)

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  3. Bravo Brother! I had a different case here, where a neighbour reported abuse of my aunt, when she is just trying to discipline the daughter.. I wonder how come ppl just don't know how to 'help' at the 'right' time ya..

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  4. Love this post of yours, Eugene!

    Yes, things like baby-dumping and child abuse make me sad. It hurts to see how disgusting mankind can be...

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  5. I wuz surprised too to hear that in our "kaypoh" society, the neighbours were not curious enough to probe her cries.

    Saw it on the news last night, very sad that it happened. Antoher precious life lost to an unreasonable cause. :(
    +Ant+

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  6. The insanity and the ugly truth about life. Lately its been all over the news about child abuse and dumping babies...

    Its a very sad scenario and to some of us, we just felt helpless and wish we could do something to change things.

    Just be aware of your surrounding, neighbor, family and friends... Take action once you know something is wrong in their way of treating children. We are not being nosy but we are just a care citizen.

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  7. eugene, u better go back and check on ah How.. see he is still alive and kicking or not.. takut also la.. thank goodness, if not for u, he also another gone case, maybe..
    so far, i never came across such cases before.. i mean kids crying their hearts out, mine all senior citizens around my area.. normally apartments, they can hear, right? yes, the neighbours should have done something than just bla bla blaaaa...
    The girl is in same hands now, at least.. sigh...

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  8. Yes Eugene, I'm so sad when hear this news. If I were the neighbour, sure I'll do something to rescue the lil one. Really sad...

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  9. ohhh also dont forget the babies dumped in dumpsites

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  10. Yeah, I guess most of us are just too busy with our own stress or just afraid to be involved to add additional stress. BUT, doing things like these, can save lives. Well done bro.

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  11. Typical Malaysian attitude- "mind your own business"!!

    You are such a nice guy! Last time when a Malay tot went astray in Carrefour, my husband and other shoppers seems didn't bother at all. I kept trailing and at last brought her to the information counter, not long after that her grandpa rushed to the counter and held her hand tight!

    I witnessed these kinda incident thrice, but none of the ppl around care for the missing tots! What a SHAME!!

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  12. *sigh* Sometimes, you cannot really care wan, Eugene. You see my anak... throw tantrum without reason and can cry for hours, and that is just scolding. Sometimes, never hentam him oso can cry for 1 or 2 hours non stop. Malas layan. Everytime he does this for attention, i ignore only. Neighbours oso biasa d. Immune.

    Maybe... for people with normal children, you have never seen how sometimes, special children...especially ones with autism or asperger throw tantrum. Really non-stop, and it is not even the parents fault to even begin with. It is not fair, Eugene, to accuse parents for abusing children each time they throw tantrum or cry their heads off for hours.Maybe, you have yet to deal with special children. Sorry to say this...but not every child who cry their bloody head off for hours is being abused. You guys are parents to normal children. Wouldn't understand that. I'm probably the only one who says this.

    And you know why sometimes these children get killed? It's because of their tantrums and crying, and because... parents couldn't handle them. And because...parents did not even realize that their children have either autism, asperger, or even adhd. Kenot tahan, frustrated, den whack them til die! So... my advice to parents is...when your child shows any autistic tendency or adhd tendency, gets some professional advice.

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  13. really hard to care wor, coz some kids really "yao guai" like that one..
    if beating is on the reason to "teach", then i think ok loh..

    i am very mind my own business ppl.. typical Malaysia.. T.T

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  14. And I forget to add...sometimes, bruises on children are not caused by parents who beat them up as well. Autistic children have a tendency to hurt themselves on purpose. Kicking their legs, banging themselves to the wall til they get hurt themselves. Malaysian is yet to be educated with this. Even the ministry who is children's patron is also not really aware of this.

    So before you do anything... you make sure that the child in question is not a special child who have the tendency to hurt himself. This is called mini-seizure.

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  15. It's hard to draw a line between "care" and being a "busybody".

    Most people wont appreciate if you "care" for them and their family.

    It's alright to take action when we can see that the kid is obviously being abuse.

    My son had colic when he was 3mths old. Kept crying at night. Neighbor asked my MIL. Maybe they dont understand what is colic gua.

    In fact my MIL also asked me why my kid kept crying. All her others grand children never cry like that. I really felt very bad at that time :(

    Sometimes there are special child also which will cry for no apparent reason.

    Teacher, neighbor and something the parents themselves didnt know that the child is special child and thinks it's plain naughtiness.

    What I am saying is that we have to see it's really child abuse situation or not before taking drastic action.

    If really child abuse then you can hentam the fella kau-kau :p

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  16. Wow...u so mancho! haha

    I read about that sad news too.

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  17. oh my...
    this is so heart-breaking...i feel like crying reading your post dear..

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  18. Kudos to Eugene! if only there were more neighbours like u... i really pity the little kid :(

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  19. :-(.

    Think it would be better to be a busybody anytime; to wrongly accuse someone is 100 times better than to have a child's life taken.

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  20. if there's some people that I loathed and hate most in the world is people who abuse kids and women, abortionists and those who neglect their elderly. =/

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  21. Yes, if we see this in our neighbourhood, we must report. We are protected by law...so no worries!

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  22. All of us have been plagued by a disease....depression and mental problem. :D

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  23. something you said really struck home eugene -- we MUST be busy bodies when it involves a child's life.

    well done for stepping in and helping the poor helpless kid.

    have a good weekend.

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  24. Most ppl have this "tidak peduli" attitude. Don't want to be bzbody. I will report to the police if I ever hear a child cries non-stop.

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  25. Abused kids, abused dogs and cats, abused environment... what else is new in Boleh land ? We all need to speak up. People are throwing trash into drains and river here in Sarawak. It is disgusting !!

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  26. it's really quite tricky. there are too many things to consider, as can be learned from the comments above.

    I guess it takes inteligence, mental and emotional, to deal with this issue, either directly or indirectly.

    This post really sparks a healthy and constructive debate. There is much to learn from everyone.

    Thank you.

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  27. @BoeyJoey, den I really hope your kids dun anyhow cry for a few hours without any good reason, cuz people might just report you for abusing without even alarming you beforehand.

    @Cyn... if everyone oso report each time a child cries non-stop...den habislah. Never investigate properly...straight report. Nia...bruises oso doesn't really indicate abuse. As I said... selft inflicted injuries... some people just don't understand that there are autistic/asperger children out there who have tendency to hurt themselves. Bah! Another typical Malaysian. Kids cry, straight conclude abuse. Tarak ambil tau if that's a special child or not or what happened beforehand. Bengang!

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  28. i thank you guys for your wonderful comments, you know in life, sometimes a little we do can make a big difference in someone's life, believe this.

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  29. Feed really depressed if I will the three year girl.
    I shout but nobody care. I cry but nobody action.
    Feel like helpless.
    Why there are so cruel people in the world?
    Feel sorry for the baby girl.

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