I could see anguish and frustration manifested in my friend's reddened face, as soon as he hanged up his mobile after talking to his ex wife, i immediately asked him what happened, he blurted the incessant speech of profanity and vulgarity in Hokkien and suddenly he asked me this question, " Tek Leong,( this is how my old schoolmate address me), how old were you when first had sex ?"
This scene took place yesterday, when i called my friend up for lunch, this old school mate of mine got married at the age of 24, divorced, remarried, two sons from the previous marriage one 16 and one 19 respectively. We are both 44 now, i've always marvelled at my friends marrying young but now i sense their frustration as well.
I didn't answer his first question for i tasted the forbidden fruit so much later than he did, instead i asked him what had his frustration got to do with my first sexual experience. With no sign of him cooling down and with the conversation still punctuated with the Hokkien profanity, so he divulged the reason behind his frustration.
He told me that when he was cleaning up his 16 years old son's room, accidentally he found an used condom heaped among the rubbish in the garbadge bin, not satisfied with what he found, his immediate action spured him to seek out his son's drawer and he found two more unused condoms.
I asked him did he know of his son having any girl friends, he said he knew but he said the girl was only 15 years old, then i asked him again did he confront his son about his discovery. He said he wanted his ex wife to talk to his son first but sadly his ex acted as if nothing happened.
Then he asked me what would i do if i were to be in his shoes, he wanted me to share with me, seriously i told him i really didn't know what to do if i were to be in his shoes but i did tell him to act cool about it, may be talk to hm like an adult and scare him a bit that his son was flouting with a criminal offense, then if he is not careful he can be accused of raping an underaged girl.
I beg him to share with me what he'd done or what action he'd taken when we meet the next time.
P/S : Teach our children respect, love them to love others