I nearly had a row with my mother in law when i was spending my CNY's week down in Johor Bahru, the tipping point for my frustration was about her insinuations about me not being the kind of son in law in accordance to her standard.
Please dont get me wrong, i do not harbour any ill feelings towards both my in laws, it is just that she fails to understand that i was cultured by her standards or simply i did not come from that houshold like herchildren or i fail to pretend to impersonate the kind of son in law that mirrors her expectation which i am darn tired of doing.
I can truly understand her concern and her sometimes unkind comments about me being the husband to her daughter, and how my natural trait of being thrify giving her the impression that her daugther is deprived of some kind of a good life. I believe what she wanted is to make sure that her daughter is well taken care of, i can truly understand that once again.
Sometime i really wish i could be bold enough to stand up, just to tell that i cant be the son in law that she thought i should be but i can only be the husband that i thought i ouught to be, but i never had the gut to do that for i know it might strain the relationship of both, and the saddest part is my lovely wife will be the only VICTIM should that ever happen.
In retrospect, i have been married to my lovely wife for the past 14 years, and i truly am thankfulto my in laws for bringing up my lovley wife with all the good values that are truly evident in her, and for that i am proud to say that my in laws are great in that sense.
P/S : When differences collide, the best thing to do is to do nothing..........