Yes, for sure, definately, concretely and seriously my Jovial (eldest 13 years old) has changed, now that the change that i have been waiting for, anticipated of has indeed arrived, and i am now entering another level of school of fatherhood as far as my Jovial is concerned, so the Story goes..........
Prior to the change i'd noticed in Jovial, he was such timid kind of boy, i remember everytime when he got the scolding from me, especially at night, i would just tell him to sleep all by himself in his own room.(he is very fond of sleeping with us),then long after in the room he would stroll out of his room and came to our room, apologized and then telling us that he could not sleep without us by his side.
Now if i would to ask him to sleep all alone by himself in his room after the scolding, disdainly he would oblige. He would just storm into his room, this is not all yet, he would lock himself in and barring us from going in. As if as the protest with the message that reads like this " Papa, you punish me and keep me in the room, ok now i am here and dont you dare come in." directed at me.
Now the table is turned on me, if he is to be sent to the room, i will be the one longing to tuck him to sleep instead of him creeping up on us. How time flies really.
I remember i used to tell Jovial that it would come a time,when he would just act cool, rebellious subtly or outrightly towards the parents all in the name of Growing Up, we would tongue lash each other, he would act disdainly. To be frank i do enjoy this part of dealing with him.
It helps me to look at Jovial from the perspective of Jovial's, it makes me see things from Jovial's side and most importantly of all, it kicks my butt telling me that i should keep on Growing Up with him and it alerts me to look out for my own flaws as a father.
No matter what, i strongly believe, with a lot of attention, showering of love, reasonable scolding and affection, Jovial will turn out to be a fine young man.
P/S : He is my son, I am his father and Love is my giving.............