“原谅别人，就是善待自己" In Engslish, it simply means " to be able to forgive others, hence you are treating yourself good"
I was once in that particular situation as well (not able to forgive), a good friend cheated me of a few thousands dollars, and he only returned a small fraction of it, and i was then harbouring hatred against him, i even made malicious calls to his office in the attempt of smearing his name, and tarnishing his image, all that i really wanted to do or determined to do was to get even with him because for two to three years, he lied and eluded me that caused a lot of malaise upon me, and i really wanted to defame him, to make him go through what i went through because of him.
I remembered when i did that, i was feeling bad inside, i wanted to hurt him but instead i was not feeling at peace with myself, i was so worried, what if he really lost his job, what would happen to his family,for a few days i was just feeling bad, simply because i was not able to let go of the fact that my good friend had cheated me. Eventually,when i finally chose to let go of the fact that i was cheated by a good friend, i felt good and liberated, even now i do bump into him once in a while, he is still my friend.
We all know that, hatred is one most powerful, venomous and sometimes deadly force that can drive one to do the most unthinkable, disastrous and even fatal act, which often results in bad bad outcome.
A spurned lover would kill his/her lover just to get even, which only results in his/her taking his/her own life, or spending the rest of his/her life remorsefuliy behind bars and many more real life tragedies we have heard and still hearing with only one common cause in them................ hatred.
Life is short they say, therefore treat yourself good and let bygone be bygone. i know it is easier said than done, but if we let hatred linger on, then it will be harder done and undone. I strongly believe, one cannot enter heaven if one still harbours hatred even at his demise, even if you are the Abbot or the High Priest, there is no room for you, if there is hatred in your heart.
A true story of a good friend, she was so bitter, scornful and was always bad mouthing of her ex-husband, and for so many years, her life was full of bitterness and sorrow, it affected her works, and she could not stay long in a job, eventually she joined a so called religious group and began to let loose and let go, she is now a successful insurance agent.
Q) Is there any ill feeling or hatred that you are not able to get over with ?
A word of caution to all the married men..though
SAVE YOUR PENIS, SAY NO TO EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS..
P/S : My heart is made to fill love, therefore the valves are made to pump out the hatred if i had any.